does anyone have any tips for me to deal with my anger before i hurt my girlfriend anymore? I love her with all of my heart and I just want to make her happy. Please help me, this is the most important thing that can happen in my life right now.
2007-12-07 19:50:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I think you need to sit and talk to her and tell her that you really love her. You know that you hurt her and you're going to do everything in your power to stop getting angry so easily. Tell her this out of the blue so she understands you DO really care and you're actually TRYING.
Anger is an extreme emotion we all go through. In order to control your anger you need to pinpoint what it is that is making your angry. What happens when you get angry? Are you mean, do you say hurtful things, are you abusive? You have to ask yourself all these questions. You know you're wrong beause you feel guilty. When DO you get angry? You are not specifying when you get angry, so it's hard to say what you should do, but if it is when you get in an argument with your girlfriend sometimes the best thing is to walk away. She is going to HAVE to understand that is the best thing. Do you need to cry? Maybe you haven't cried for a long long time. Let it out! Don't worry no one has to witness this.
If you try so many things, but all fails you must see a professional. If you can't afford a psychologist there are some free clinics that maybe help with your anger.
Good luck! I use to be a mean and angry person and I'm very lucky that my boyfriend stayed with me through all my weak times. He is now my husband!
2007-12-07 19:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Silly Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
My best suggestion is try an anger management program or therapy to find the root of your anger issues -- you may already know what they are...
Instead of dealing with anger, and facing the pain which caused it, people bag their issues and they tend to come out in inappropriate ways. Through therapy we can learn better ways to cope, come to realizations about our anger, and move forward in a better way.
One thing you can do while you are trying to figure out how to solve this issue is STOP and count to 20 in your mind before responding to anyone, in any way. This means if someone asks you a question, count to 20 before you answer... or, if you are having a conversation and want to make a thoughtful remark, count to 20. And it's especially important if you are annoyed by something to stop, and count to 20 before you responde at all.
Counting to 20 gives you time to stop, and think about your reaction. It takes practice, but it's a valuable tool.
I hope it works out.
2007-12-07 19:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that wherever anger is there goodness is.So this may mean that you are a good person.But too much of anger is very dangerous.It will kill relationships.Just keep quiet and dont open your mouth as when you are in anger,you may use harsh or bad words.Dont show your anger in your face.Tell her poklitely why you are disagreeing with her.If she doesnt agree try to convince her.Dont keep arguing if she doesnt agree.Try to convince her after some time.Try to understand her likes and dislikes and avoid what she doesnt like.Concentrate on what she likes.OK.All the best.
2007-12-07 20:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all Anger is a byproduct of some internal problem ...have you been to couseling?
Also I suggest going to some sort of support group I found Help at Celebrate Recovery...
At least you are aware that you have a problem.
Be strong and I hope she is supportive of ou ..you need a support system too...
have anymore questions feel free to email me!OK
YOU CAn Do it!
There's hope
2007-12-07 20:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by dawnO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already exceeded first step, that's admitting which you have anger themes. My ex used to have anger themes yet she did no longer admit it so the undertaking became under no circumstances fastened. it truly is possibly no longer the terrific answer, yet it truly is what I used to/would do. understanding you have this subject, continually attempt to stay calm each and every time once you're annoyed or stepping into your person nerves. in case you purely totally opt to guard your relationship, which i assume it potential plenty to you, which potential you probably love him/her plenty, continually bear in techniques that love trumps hate, love trumps each little thing else, or in basic terms to me, it became that case. I knew i'd die for her, so this little anger subject isn't some thing i could no longer administration/exchange for her. end: in case you get what I recommend, easily i think of you ought to use different helpful emotions to suppress your unfavourable emotions.
2016-11-14 21:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see a doctor for anger managment i am not saying this because its obvious i am saying this because its a chemical thing and unless u have a lot of will u wont be able to control it without help
2007-12-10 12:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BEST MEDICATION FOR ANGER
Bang your head against the wall as hard as you can every time you get angry.
In a matter of a month everything will be right on track.
2007-12-07 20:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i noted one common solution to anger....
please do spend time with people who r superior to u, if Ur working so meet those who r Senior to u.... go to people from whom u have taken money in debts...... spend time with elders..... so u ll feel that they r making mistakes and u can not make anger....... and finally Ur anger ll be controlled......
so at last no fight with gf as well.......
2007-12-07 19:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by daudzai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you wnat to release that anger, think bout yr gf and how it might hurt her.. You're lucky she's still with you.... So dont ruin it...
2007-12-07 19:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only person who can able to control your anger. try & do it now or never
2007-12-07 20:01:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sarangapani S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋