If I have a kid who is like 4 years old and she is she did domething bad is it ok to let out my anger by breaking one of her toys?
2007-12-07 19:40:07 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
no you dont want to teach her violence
2007-12-07 19:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Presley's Mommy 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
I can certainly understand how frustrated and angry you must be. It is common to want revenge, but no, it is not okay. What needs to happen is to get his parents and your parents (I am assuming you are young and living with your parents) involved and get a stop put to his behavior. Also, I think that if he has broken your things on purpose, you should make him and his parents responsible for repairing or replacing the things he has broken. If it was an accident, you should forgive him, but I get the sense that it wasn't since you say he has broken alot of your stuff. If he has to be responsible for his actions, maybe he will learn how his actions affect other people. If this child continues this behavior and his parents do not respond and control him, I might get the police involved. Perhaps then his parents will take their parenting seriously. I hope this gets taken care of for you and may God bless and keep you.
2016-04-08 01:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure if you want her to start going around breaking things when she thinks you have done something bad. What exactly do you think you are teaching her by breaking a toy? If you want to use toys as a punishment just take away her favourite toy for a little while.
2007-12-08 00:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO! You spent maybe some good money on those toys! Just dont teach her violence.Your a nitwit if you think like that.
2007-12-15 03:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! It is however ok to take it away and shelf it for a while. Make them earn it back by making them understand bad behavior is never tolerated. Breaking toys sends the wrong message. It says violence is ok...and it's not. Never!
2007-12-08 08:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by hewlett p 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
of course it is okay to teach her when you get angry you break things. What harm will that do. Simply putting a toy away for 3 days as a punishment won't teach her anything
You seriously need to do a parenting course on how to deal with your child when she misbehaves
2007-12-07 20:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no its not. i bet if you brought this up in front of a judge he would bring up your ability to control your anger. might even have your child taken away until you attend classes. oneday a toy might be out of reach but the childs arm is just as easily broken. you need to talk to someone about getting help. i know its like, "well id never hurt my child!" well youd be suprised how many abusers start off saying that.
2007-12-07 19:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by AnGeL.SlayeR 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Errr..........no. How are you ever going to teach your daughter that it's OK to feel angry/sad etc. but it's what you do about it that is important? How would you feel if she broke a precious possession of yours in a fit of temper? My guess is that you'd spank her and send her to her room!
You should try never to lose your temper in front of your child; it's perfectly possible to discipline children and give them boundaries without losing your temper and behaving like a toddler yourself. If you have that much anger you sound as if you need some sort of counselling.
Other that that, you may be just trolling hoping for a reaction....
2007-12-07 20:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by spanner the stig 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If she breaks something of yours on purpose... she should be told that if you break something you have to pay for it making sure she understands. No shouting.Then ask her to pay for what she broke with a toy. But if she is just bad, standing in a corner, or no desert is better.
2007-12-07 19:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No! that will not solve the problem. take her toys away and put them in time out. but by breaking her toys it shows her that when she is angry its ok to take her frustrations out on things or people.
2007-12-08 00:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Listen it's your kind ,your choice. But a act of violence is not going to help you, and you are going to learn your kid violenc as well. And don't break your kid's toys, not at that young stage is going to harm her/him sociologically
2007-12-07 19:54:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋