i don't know if this is some kind of bad habit or something.....but whenever i get close emotionally close with a guy( onces i like like or just my guys friends) i aways feel uncomfortable and when ever i'm either of the alone, i aways feel like i have to say or do something that doesnt show emotion. At one time i thought i was gay but i notice i also feel this way with my girlfriends(i ignore it) Do u think i have problem wit my feel? what should i do? HELP PLZ. Im 19 and single b/c of this
2007-12-07 18:52:50 · 5 answers · asked by ~Lady scorpio~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is really good that you are doing some serious self analysis and if you still think that you need some assistance then go see a phsychiatrist and see if anyone can help you, they definitely will help you.
2007-12-07 19:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're experiencing some kind of nervousness. When you're with real and genuine friends, you don't have to fill up every moment with chatter or conversation. It should come naturally. You shouldn't have to force it. In time you'll learn to relax. So, don't be too hard on your self.
Most gay ppl, did not have a close, intimate relationship with the parent of their own sex when they were growing up. That's why they seek out same-sex relationships. The parent failed them and didn't (for some unknown reason) didn't show enough love and affection for the child. The parent may have showed contempt and rejected the child. Or in some cases, the parent was so wrapped up in their own troubles, that they severely neglected the child.
2007-12-08 03:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was ganna say your just shy, but your name indicates that u kno that already. i think your problem is that you are not comfortable enough with these people to not feel anxious when your alone, like what do i do what do i say, there only focuse is on me kinda mindset. i dont think that means your gay at all, i just think you should better get to know the person that you wanna spend time with alone, even if its totally not in a sexual way at all, just a friendly way. thats why i prefer to have one or 2 people im really close with & can say or do anything around um & im fine, everyone else its not like that, so spend time in bigger groups of people, not just alone with some person you feel like you dont know very well.
2007-12-08 03:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by sO*happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you go through some kind of trauma at a young age? That may be the answer.
2007-12-08 02:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you do have a problem with your feel.
2007-12-08 03:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋