i am 18, i like sex but i am at a time in my life when i want it alot and im more interested in it then my bf is. he likes it but not all the time. and i do not want to talk to him about it and just be like oh i want sex sometimes and you do not and i do not like that. but i love him so i do not want to make him do anything its funny i thought this only happens to guys.
2007-12-07 18:50:48 · 8 answers · asked by Britt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry u find urself in a tough situation... I've been in a similar deal before. I thoroughly enjoy sex, and have dated a girl in the past who didn't desire it as much as I did. We sat down and talked about it several times. I felt as though I really loved her, but there are many aspects to a relationship. It is obviously important for both parties in a relationship to be happy, and while sex shouldn't be everything, it was one of the things at that time that I felt I needed more often to truly be happy.
In that case, you have to decide if you are willing to ignore your desire for more sexual attention, and be satisfied with what your partner is willing to give you now... or if it is an issue important enough to you to begin to look elsewhere for satisfaction. Some relationships end over sexual frustration/tension. If he doesn't want as much sex as you do and he gives in to you anyway, then u may be having more sex, but it may not be near as enjoyable, since your partner really won't be into it anyway.
I found myself beginning to chat online with other girls, even having somewhat intimate conversations with them, trying to fill the sexual voids in my relationship with my girl at the time. Ultimately, if you can't come to an agreeable compromise, then one of you will remain unhappy, or feel a sense of frustration each time the issue or lack of is brought up.
Talk to him about it, and see where it goes from there...
Feel free to e-mail me sometime if you get bored on here or just wanna chat... jm_chiefs@yahoo.com It's always fun to meet new contacts and get to know people on here... Hope u have a wonderful night!
2007-12-07 20:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by kcguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to subtly get him ready ahead of time. Start like maybe 3 hours ahead of bedtime. Little subtle things here and there. A pat on the tush. Half an hour later, lean over to grab something, giving him a nice view of cleavage. Nothing too obvious or pushy. Get his subconscious thinking about sex, and his conscious mind will eventually catch up (and he'll probably think it was his idea).
PS: Some men, when they are stressed out, loose their libido (I know I do). The unfortunate thing about that is, sex would actually relieve some stress. It may simply be an issue of stress and he needs to find some way to cope with it?
2007-12-07 19:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Damocles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is try and get him interested in it. Roll a dice or two and the number on the dice is the number you needed to have sex. It will not be forcing him to do it. It might actually higher his sex drive if he has sex more. Spice things up as well. Different positions etc.
2007-12-07 18:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want really just want it alot, or do you want the attention you get from it....closeness and etc? Think about that first, then if you really are just horny, let him know that your needs aren't being met in the ole bedroom! This will probably crush him so be prepared for this relationship to end....
2007-12-07 18:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys only want sex when they want it and guys like me liek sex all the time just liek you. So give me a shout and we can chat about it
2007-12-07 19:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
honey i am 17 and in the same situation but i just recently went to www.cosmopolitan.com (you know the magazine) and they have some amazing sex tips that i have started using and he wanted it so much more!!! hope it helps!
2007-12-07 20:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful B... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to show him u wanna have sex with him. Maybe this site will help:
http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-Your-Boyfriend-You-Want-to-Have-Sex
2007-12-07 20:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you a 2 step solution..
1) break up with hime
2) be my girlfriend!
2007-12-07 19:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Buddy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋