hi! im 28 years old japanese girl who have blk boyfriend for 1 year and half,
we are happy couple but some point we have disagreement,
that is "marriage" problem!
I really want to get married but he says he needs more time.
11/2 year is not enough time for thinking about marriage?
what american or african american people are thinking?
he says cuz I'm japanese, I always think about marriage
but, he is black ,so he really doesn't trust people whom he knows for only a year.
i guess that's feeling include parsonal feeling too
but I want know how long take time for thinking about marriage for black person.
they could have some gap between races.
what do you think?:)
2007-12-07 17:46:12 · 6 answers · asked by 550ac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His marriage issue has nothing to do with race or culture, it has to do with is he making the right decision? Talk to him about it and find out his views, don't assume.
2007-12-07 17:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I'm not sure culture is the real issue. Yes honour and loyalty are Japanese values, but not only Japanese values. You might remind him about that. Sounds like he is skirting the issue, unless something else is up that hasn't been mentioned. That is if you use a lot of guilt trips on him. Don't know, just guessing. Good luck. Konichi wa.
2007-12-08 01:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Hues 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am in the military and I have lived overseas for 11.5 years some of them in Japan. Ha ha, I've seen lots of guys fall for foreign gals and marry them happily. Culture has nothing to do with his not asking you to marry him. Something else is stopping him.
2007-12-08 01:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's playing you! If you date a girl for a year and a half, You know if you want to marry her or not! Face it, he's using you for a good time and his ethnic background is a weak, pathetic excuse. He isn't a real man or he wouldn't be saying things like that!
2007-12-08 01:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Locke 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont think its black men, i think its just MEN. lol all american men dont want to get married, they like being free. Just make sure he loves you, and that he's the one. Make sure that he will marry you sooner or later, dont just let him lead you on.
2007-12-08 01:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Remy Lebeau! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do with race..im a black man and i dont think in that way maybe you should just admit to yourself he is not ready to commit and maybe your not ready for it aswell
2007-12-08 01:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by riderriddim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋