When he does things he reacts like I am going to get mad at him or like I will yell at him, or try to give him a guilt trip. He works a lot of hours and hardly has time for much else. How would I go about talking to him about it with out putting him on the defensive?
2007-12-07 15:59:20 · 6 answers · asked by Sup! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One example was he had one day off to get a boat load of things done. He hadn't slept much since I've met him. He was on his way to see me and when he was late I got concerned that I couldn't get a hold of him so I was driving around looking for him. He had fallen asleep on the side of the road in his car with no heater and it was a freezing night. He didn't have warm clothes on so he was ice cold. I had him sit in my warm car and I told him he scared me. He was slurring his speech but not drunk and mumbling. Then he yelled "IM SORRY!!" I calmly said to him. "Im not mad at you. I was worried sick and I'm glad you are okay" He felt like a jerk afterwards and apoligised for a couple days after that.
2007-12-07 21:54:54 · update #1
It could be his EX.......i know because my brother treated me badly.... i was the baby of the family and i am on the defensive...it is how we were treated...i am sorry..HE PROBABLY FEELS YOU ARE GOING TO YELL AT HIM ...like SHE did...etc.,...just tell him you are not her!!! and keep telling him that!!!
2007-12-07 16:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that can happen. The good thing is that if an ex is the problem, that is something you can bring up very directly (but gently) with him. He may be keeping it bottled up because he thinks you don't want to hear about his past relationships, or he just doesn't know how to bring it up or maybe isn't even aware that this is bothering him. Sometimes guys just need a little help opening up about things...
2007-12-07 16:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop snapping becase we hardly ever see each other and you act like im the bad guy in here!
2007-12-07 16:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by ~*SmileySmileyMe*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not trying to piss him off but you just want to spend more time together cus you miss having him and his personality. if hes an a*s*s* though he doesnt deserve to have a caring gf
2007-12-07 16:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple..u need more time with each other, let him feel that he is well loved by you .help him know that not all ladies are as bad as his ex is..:( i pity him..
2007-12-07 16:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Judezen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps
2007-12-07 16:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋