I have liked my friend Alex for about a year and a half. His girlfriend Ashley hates me. They've been together a little over a year. He keeps trying to get me help him cheat on her, but I dont want to hurt Ryan, my boyfriend by breaking up with him. I like him so much but I think I might love Alex. Alex was attempting to break up with Ashley this past summer when he found out she's pregnate. He says that hes going to dump her after the baby is born and then ask me out. He keeps flirting and hitting on me at school and trying to mess around with me when we are alone. He got another one of my friends [one of his ex gf's] to help him cheat on Ashley at least 3 different times [handjob, *******, etc.]. He's not happy with Ashley at all. I really love this guy, but I really hate to break up with my boyfriend for him. What should i do?
2007-12-07 15:55:01 · 18 answers · asked by Rebecca R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i forgot to mention Ashely is NOT keeping the baby. She is putting it up for adoption. Her due date is Jan. 26th.
2007-12-07 16:12:38 · update #1
The girl that Alex is dating, [Ashely] is VERY over controlling. If ANY girl tries to talk to him she flips out and chews the girl out.
she did this to me one day. Thank God for my best friend [he was making faces over her head to me to make me laugh in her face and piss her off even more.]
They are both in the ROTC [shes the highest position under the Sergent and over abuses her power even to manipulate her own boyfriend into doing things for her.]
He didn't just **** her up and leave her. She forced him to **** her.
2007-12-07 16:13:25 · update #2
i know this all sounds ridiculous but thanks for trying to help me :]
2007-12-07 16:14:45 · update #3
idk
2007-12-07 15:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by gunz1994 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will cheat on you. It will happen.
This is a dramabomb waiting to go off. If you don't want to **** things up with him, with your friends, and with their friends, do not help him cheat on his girlfriend (also do not go tattling on him...if someone asks, don't lie, but don't volunteer the information), do not try to get him to get with you until he breaks up of his own volition....
You know, actually, that **** with the baby is enough to tell me that you are an idiot for even considering getting with this guy. He's a scumbag of the highest order, and if you're stupid enough to associate with him, you deserve any and all consequences that come from it.
Enjoy your emotional scars and/or bastard child.
2007-12-07 16:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If Alex is willing to cheat on his currently gf then what would be stopping him cheating on you too.
If you dont love your bf or if you do have feelings for someone else then its not fair to tag him along.
If you were to go out with Alex and you broke up and lost contact forever, how would you feel?
Friendship is forever, boysfriends are whenever.. Is the chance of losing your friendship really worth it.
2007-12-07 15:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too complex to be answered here, think and do what u think is right, ur jus confused right now...think it out. I've once been almost in love with my best friend(male) too, but Ive realized I jus wanted to be really good friends and nothing more so i didnt do anything.But when he told me that Im the only person he would be more than friends I knew what he felt but he told me he wasnt doing anything cuz we jus wanted to be friends I knew what he meant and we're still cool. it seems that ur situation is way more complicated, if he made that girl pregnant u better think straight about what might happen to u if u guys got together. and think hard it could ruin ur future
2007-12-07 16:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by greyewolfe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all ask your self would you want to be with a man who constantly tries to get in you pants eventhough you both are in a relationship. baby girl if he will cheat on his current girl with you and your other frien he will cheat on you with that same friend and someone else. besides he kind of sounds like a looser saying things like he is going to dump his pregnate girl frind after she has the baby,
2007-12-07 16:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious that he got her pregnant? Well thats horrible that he would dump her after the baby is born because that baby will have a horrible life and she wont want it because it's to much for her. And tell him to have her get an abortion then she wont have the baby and the troubles will be gone and they both will have a clean slate. Then you can date him.
2007-12-07 16:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Peepers the Quail 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if y'all are close friends it might mess up the friendship. and he doesn't sound like the faithful type so i would guess if u were dating him weather u love him or not he would break your heart by getting Ashley or whoever to play with his snake just like he did with the current woman.
2007-12-07 16:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by cajunbaby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh..you love a guy who has cheated on and is going to dump his gf after he knocks her up? And whats going to keep this from happening to you?
2007-12-07 15:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by javaKat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rebecca, please steer clear of this guy Ashley - the guy who dumps girl after getting her pregnant, will surely dump u too - after u get pregnant. And u will b left holding the Baby !
Please get away my dear Rebecca b4 it is too late !
Donot allow him to mess around with u or ur body !
save urself, my dear little girl b4 it is too late !
2007-12-07 16:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He got HER PREGNANT! NO dont break up with your bf. He cheated on ashley he'll cheat on you. and once again. HE GOT HER ******* PREGNANT HE HAS TO TAKE RESPONSABILITY! Dont be the reason he breaks up with ashley
2007-12-07 15:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like a jerk. I can't believe he openly said to you that he plans to dump the girl right after she has the kid.
be careful.
2007-12-07 15:58:52 · answer #11 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋