Me and my girlfriend have been with each other for almost 2 years. We talk over the phone more than we see each other but when we do see each other its the best
but she cant go out as much as i want her to
and we dont trust each other anymore because she is unfaithful
what should i do because i dont want to leave her and she loves me as much as i love her.
2007-12-07 15:48:15 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My first love was raped when she was eleven. When I was with her I didn't know this. In relationships she thought that having sex was what every man wanted. What she went through scarred her emotionally and she would jump from relationship to relationship. If you love her it is best to be her friend and try to understand what she is going through in her life. Each person is different and communication and counseling is the best hope for a solution.
2007-12-07 15:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ed B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough.
If she loves you so much, why was she unfaithful? Is there something you don't have that she found in other men?
You should ask her that. That's the only way you know why she cheated (unless she was sooo drunk she couldn't tell the difference between you and John Doe)
I know you love her, but happiness is important as well.
You need to think about where you two are going... is this a long term relationship leading to marriage in the future? Or is this a relationship just for the time with an unsure future?
The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. Tell her your feelings. She's a female, she'll understand.
Trust is a big deal. Love with out trust is... nothing. You must talk to her about this. Tell her what's on your mind and tell her that you're unsure about things.... From that, your relationship will build and your love for one another will grow stronger.
Best wishes. :)
2007-12-07 15:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is unfaithful, or WAS unfaithful? I'm sorry but if she still is unfaithful, and she knows it hurts you, then she can't be as much in love with you as you may think she is.
if she WAS unfaithful, and she has stopped, then perhaps you do have a fighting chance to let the wounds heal, but counselling would be a great idea to help work things out if you can afford to. If money is an issue, there is plenty of free information available to help you work on things together if you are both willing to do so.
Either way, best of luck.
2007-12-07 15:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by jaysen_07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unfaithful why do u want to save this relationship? Once someone is cheated on your trust goes out the door no matter how much you love someone. Seems to me your relationship is based on lies. You have 2 options, you can either sit your girlfriend down and have a long talk with her about whats going on, or you can move on and find someone that is ACTUALLY going to be faithful to you. Good luck!
2007-12-07 15:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mère Chérie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit and think. she has been unfaithful. are you ok with that? will she do it again? if she has been unfaithful, does she really love you?
you say you dont trust each other anymore. that is what relationships are based on. love especially. if you cant trust someone i would think it is impossible to love them.
if you dont want to leave her as you say, then there is nothing to do but talk to her. ask why she has been unfaithful, but dont make it an argument or get emotions involved because they tend to get in the way.
2007-12-07 16:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by gr8garden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't have trust in a relationship then what's the point of yall being together.... Save yourself the heartbreak and find yourself another girlfriend who is faithful and you can trust, because it seems like you are doing all the work to get this relationship to work while your girlfriend isn't making the first step to help save this relationship.... Move on and find another lover...
2007-12-07 15:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unfaithful I hate to be the one to break this to you but she does not love you as much as you love her. The proof is in the pudding my friend.
However you said the 6 words that pretty much say what you are going to do: I don't want to leave her. Then expect to get hurt over and over again because she likes forbidden fruit.
2007-12-07 15:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Terry L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make your self clear. How come she is unfaithful to you and loves you also at the same time. Perhaps she is pretending that she loves you. may be for some kind of benefit from you. you should not spoil your life for a unfaithful person.
2007-12-07 15:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is unfaithful maybe you should find someone that you can trust. she must not love you as much as you love her or she wouldn't be unfaithful. sounds to me like you both need to sit down and talk about the problems you are having and fix them. if it were me and someone had been unfaithful to me then i would have left them in a heartbeat!! if she cheats that means that she must not want what she had or she would have never been unfaithful in the first place.
good luck!
2007-12-07 15:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by markloco2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to save this relationship is to trust her again.,.express this feelings towards her and tell her that you are very much willing to renew and better and put more saprk in your relationship..of course ask for her support that this is only done..if you too work on the relationship to save it ..and if you really love each other..then maintain it by expressing your desire to better and improve all the happenings in your love..be a willing partner and ask her too...ok???
2007-12-07 15:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋