omg...aarrgghh how can you stop being so angry when you have?

Question

ALOT of very serious legitamate reasons for being angry!!

I KNOW im only hurting myself,and that makes me even more angry..ive talked about this and prayed about it and nothing!!

i think i dont know how to pray properly??

any other tips on getting rid of really LEGIT anger??
hasnt some thing ever happened to you guys that it was impossible to let go of??

where you said c/mon now
ANYONE in my shoes would be really angry and righfully so??
dont we have the right to be angry sometimes,I want to let go of it,but for the life of me..I just cant!!

hghostin=YES it is righteous anger where great SIN abounds,,thats what I am trying to tell you guys!!

Cee T = i love you
lmao,you really made me feel alot better and I had a great laugh,which i desperatly needed!! thanks sweetie!!
too funny,I do hope your right to,cos if you are,thats all i need to let it go!!

Answer 1

As for your prayers not being answered, one of the pitfalls we often fall into as human beings is we ask God to do something like in this case remove the anger, but then we hold on to it and don't hand it over to him. That's like asking someone else to drive but keeping your hand on the steering wheel. So if you want God to remove the anger from your heart you have to hand it over to him and let go of it. On the other hand, we have all been wronged at one time or another. The damage it can do in stress and wasting your time and thoughts probably outweighs whatever has been done to you. Unless something is going to affect you permanently, change your entire lifestyle, income bracket, marital status, or send you to jail, it's not worth the time and effort. I have a couple of things in my life where I was screwed over big time and if I think about them I get ticked off all over again even though it has been many years since the events occurred. When I feel myself getting that knot in my gut I go do something else. I'll go wash or work on the car, turn on the tv, call a friend on the phone, or go play on the computer. God is there to help us walk through life but he also wants us to be pure of heart. We are supposed to forgive our enemies and that's a tough gig and if you continue to dwell on what was done to you, you'll never begin walking the road of forgiveness. Chalk it up to one of life's less than stellar experiences, learn from it, and use it as an reason to practice handing things over to God. Someday, something really important may have to be handed over and if you can let go of this, you're on your way to being not only a better person, but being the forgiving person God expects us to be. As he forgives us, we should forgive others.

Answer 2

Lady, I felt a lot like you at your age. This bit of advice won't make sense to you until you're older, but I'm certain it's true. Compared with most people in the world you and I aren't that badly off. We haven't been to war, we live in a country where our health problems are treated for free. I've only ever had moderate bad luck, nothing tragic like a fatal car crash or family being murdered. How about you? As soon as you're in a position to do it, take a trip to a poor country, even for a week. I was 27 when I took my first walk through the slums of a large Asian city in which I'd arrived the previous evening. It was just after dawn, and I got up early because of jet lag. Seeing really poor people made a big, permanent change to my outlook on life. You watch the news and know as much as I do about what a hell hole the world is, but when you go there and smell it, suddenly it becomes real. And your friends all have their own problems, even if they don't tell you. Keep going and study hard. Oh yeah, and don't be too self-sacrificing, it will just make you bitter. Indulge yourself and be a little bit selfish occasionally. I gave up trying to be a Mother Theresa a long time ago. I'm just an average sinner who tries to help others sometimes. Maybe you are too.

Answer 3

you do have the right to be angry sometimes. the thing is to use your anger constructively. don't let it control you. if you don't think you can be calm, punch a pillow, go in the closet and scream it out, put on some angry music and sing along, or take a good long walk. after you calm down try to think of ways to express your anger in a constructive way. maybe you could discuss why you are angry with the person you are angry with, or you could join a group fighting the injustice you are dealing with. since you haven't specified what exactly you're angry about it's hard to know what to say. the best advice i have is that it will fade with time. i was angry (and bitter) for a number of years after i was raped. my anger was justified, but other than sending the monster to prison i had no other outlet, so i turned it inside. in time i learned to live with the pain and anger, and i am doing well. as for praying, it never helped me at all, which is part of the reason i am now an atheist.

Answer 4

I usually find that blowing off steam with some random destruction helps. One of my favorites is to do some target practice with my shotgun. Make sure to get some targets that really exlode well. Pumpkins, watermelons, paint cans, the point is to make a big mess. It is very cathartic, and a whole lot of fun. I guarantee you will feel better afterward. Then just take some deep breaths and let go of your anger.

Answer 5

You fail to mention the reason for your anger. Use prayer. Don't worry if you don't know how, just talk to Jesus and most of all, follow his commandments, read the Bible, an you'll see how a little faith can take you a long way. Good Luck.
I carried a lot of anger around with me, i held grudges for decades, and when i found Jesus, it really was easy to forgive and let go. I felt like a boulder was lifted off my back. Try it.

Answer 6

If you reach a point where the anger you are holding on to is only hurting you, it can make you sick, it's better to let it go. This doesn't mean allowing the person or people that made you angry continue to mistreat you, you can seperate yourself from them or take steps to not allow them to hurt you but you can do all that disppationately.

Answer 7

what are you angry about?

a person - seek forgiveness, ask forgiveness
situation - look for the good things you have around, develop a plan to get out of the situation

I would suggest writing down everything that you are angry about so you can zero in on what the problem is.

Talk about it with someone, pray about it, and then do something else, don't dwell on it.

These things have helped me in the past. I hope you get some peace.

Answer 8

Did you know i the Bible it talks about expressing your anger to God? And that it brings you closer to Him? I dont believe there is a right or worng way to pray. Its just you and God, talking and letting go of all your burdens and emotions. And it never hurts totalk to someone else either. Sometimes you just have to get angry and cry. Besides its unhealthy to have emotions bottled up! So be angry and tell God all about it! He'll listen!

Answer 9

There is no "proper" way to pray. You're talking to God, it's subjective. I'd like to believe he's just happy you're talking to him.

Legitimate anger, unjustified anger, it doesn't matter--it's hard to let it go. It's a matter of forgiveness for the one who hurt you and forgiveness for yourself for being angry. I wish I had a better answer, but just trust God and let it go to him. I haven't been able to let go of things for a long time in my life, but you have to be willing to let it go as well. Some things we hang on to because we want to, whether we realize it or not.

Good luck.

Answer 10

It is not a sin to be angry.
"Be ye angry and sin not"
It's how you express your anger that will be positive or negative.
Lots of prayer and lots of physical exercise to release serotonin in the brain will help.