i don't want to hurt his feelings, or ask for too much.
2007-12-07 14:45:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can orgasm by myself...
i know what i like...
but he's pretty selfish and sometimes lazy.
although it's my fault because i never ask for more.
2007-12-07 14:52:46 · update #1
He probably already knows you aren't having an orgasm, if he's ever experienced an orgasm and noticed the tell-tale (and largely un-fakeable) physical effects of a female orgasm. You're not fooling anyone (except the truly clueless) by moaning and carrying on. He may have got the message loud and clear (you know, that you're tired of him awkwardly huffing and puffing over you and that you thought if you faked an orgasm he'd cut it out for a while).
It's not asking too much to want to have an orgasm, but by faking it when he's obviously not really fulfilling your needs has given him the impression that he's doing what you like. If you were just honest and showed genuine appreciation when he did something right and re-directed him when he did something wrong, you may have had an opportunity to teach him what really turns you on. It will be hard to change his ways, because he probably figures "if it ain't broke, don't fix it." Talking to him about it will hurt his feelings, make him question his manhood, and probably put more pressure on him than he can handle, which will make the sex even more awkward.
If the relationship almost perfect, other than the sex, and he's a guy you want a long-term relationship with, you may be able to focus him on doing exactly what you need to reach an orgasm (if you know). Try mixing it up and take a more active role in telling and showing him what you really like, if he's really into you, he'll appreciate the help. If he's not Mr. Right, it might be easier to move on and start out more honestly and carefully with the next guy.
2007-12-07 15:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kalamazoo Mark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i does no longer tell him that I had under no circumstances had an orgasm with him in case you have advised him which you probably did. it would be extra effective to easily say some thing such as you're having a problematical time getting there now and supply some strategies. no person is usual with of you physique such as you do. Openness comes with being gentle with somebody, adulthood, and so on. even nevertheless, in case you fake it each and all the time, he will think of he's doing his interest and not undertaking approximately changing something.
2016-11-14 20:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a good way to tell him that he will crawl into a hole and never come out. Especially if you faked it with him before and he thinks you have had and orgasm with him. You could tell him the truth and help him learn how to make you orgasm cause the best lovers are taught not born.
2007-12-07 14:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to say is. (Name) I've never had an orgasm with you. It shouldn't hurt his feelings. He needs to understand that most young women don't have Orgasms.
2007-12-07 14:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by bensniffinglue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, its better to be honest now rather than to fake it and make him think that he's the man. Just get in the moment one night and show him where to please you. If you are both really into it, then you should orgasm with him. Teach the boy!
2007-12-07 14:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by justchillin_5050 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I told my hubby like this: "Hun, I'm sry to be the one to tell u but sex w/ u f'in blows. I fake everything just so u finish quicker. I'm tired of figuring out my grocery list in my head while we screw, its time things change. Oh and oral plz get a book and learn to do it right."
Thats how I said it. I was bored for 8 damn years.
U need to ask for more, u need to tell him to stop worrying about him and worry about u!
2007-12-07 14:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if it's a good idea to tell him. Try different things to get you there. It's much harder for some women to orgasm. I barely get it wen my husband and I have sex, but I always get it when he does oral.
2007-12-07 14:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't say that's asking too much. If you're too shy to tell him yourself, try a singing telegram. Maybe a barbershop quartet would soften the blow : ).
2007-12-07 16:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are mad at him and chewing his a*s out about something else and then just throw that in as an after thought.
2007-12-07 14:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Un-couth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till you're married so he makes sure to give it his best.
2007-12-07 14:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kenna Coconut™ Actorasauress Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋