Today I found out that one of my friends has a crush on the same guy that I like ALOT. For me it is far past being just a "crush". I am in high school, but I have only had strong feelings for three guys in my life so when I am attracted to someone it is really deep. When I fall I fall really hard. I know that I don't need a guy to be happy, but I just know I would be much happier if I had him.
Is it fair to still go after him even though I know that she likes him? She doesn't know how I feel. I know that she would never actually make a move and that she will just continue to admire him from afar. We aren't very close friends, but I don't want her to hate me.
One major difference is that she refers to her feelings as a crush, but mine is WAY past that.
2007-12-07 14:42:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a note...unless you KNOW this guy well, your feelings are also a crush because you can't love someone that you don't know. That being said.....I think you should talk to your friend and communicate together about what to do. Would you really want to lose her friendship over this guy? That's the #1 rule of friendship....you don't date each other's exes or crushes. It can tear friendships apart. So, think about that before going after this guy...is it worth it if you lose her friendship? Remember the old saying....guys come and go, but friendship is forever.
2007-12-07 14:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try asking her what you two should do about it, that way it kinda puts the ball in her court. Maybe if she knows how strong you feel towards him she will give up her "crush". If not I don't think a guy is worth losing a friend over at your age. Not that you don't have strong feelings for him, it's just likely that you will develop strong feelings for someone else before long. Please don't think I'm minimizing your feelings, it's just that that is the way it usually goes. You didn't say you and the guy were even dating yet, does he feel the same way toward you? If not then that is even more reason to keep your friendship and not the guy. But just talk to her and see what happens. Best of luck to you.
2007-12-07 22:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by thisaintall07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instaed of bringing it up formally with her, mention lightly how much you like him in casual conversation and see how she reacts. Ask her for her opinion and size up her reaction. If she is negative about it ask her what is wrong, but don't relent. If you like him, let her know you plan to do something about it...just not that direct.
2007-12-07 22:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by hellnocutco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go for the guy you like.... your friend may be mad for a little while but soon she'll find another guy who she will like and all will be well.. she sounds like that kind of girl... hope this helped!! good luck!!=]
2007-12-07 22:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋