i know i was wrong for trying to stab him, but what should i do now?

Question

well me and a relative of mine got into a huge argument. he is always aggervating me and i never do much about it. well yesterday i was doing my homework and i really needed to concentrate, but he came in my room and i asked him nicely to get out. but he wouldnt so i told my mom to tell him to get out and he got mad and he put my computer chair out of place just for the hell of it and that really bothered me, because my mom is always getting on to me about where the computer chair is and she tells me she wants me to keep it under the desk. so i told him to put it back where it was and he didnt so i told my mom to tell him to do it and he did it but he didnt do it right and he knew what he was doing, he was trying to aggervate me even more. so i got a belt and i followed him and i gave him a good smack with it, but im sure it didnt hurt too bad. he got so angry he pushed me down into the dining room table and pushed me down and we fell down in the chair and the chair fell down. so i got

so i got up and i grabbed a pair of scissors and i tryed to stab him, but my mom held me back. i was so scared and angry. i didnt know what to do and he wasnt going to get away with it. but now his mom and grandma are saying bad things about me and they are afraid to bring him around me. i feel so bad and i really do regret it. i wish i could take it back. so what should i do? i know i cant go back in time and change anything but what is the most i could do?

Answer 1

Yes, I think that you went a little too far and you should never let someone make you that angry that you have to pick up something to hurt them. But if you told your mom numerous of times that he is bothering you your mom should have done something about it like sent him home and called his parents and let them know that you two are not getting alone and that he should not come over there and that they should talk to him about aggravating you when you do nothing to start him. What I think he needs is a good old fashioned *** whipping and they should whip him until he can not sit he will learn a lesson. As for his mom and grandma if they knew how bad he was and what he does to you for you to get that angry they would lock him up. Let them talk good or bad you will be made out to look like the bad person to them no matter what you did. You can not take it back, but this should teach him not to mess with someone and wants to run scared. Feel bad now but later he will do the same thing and your mom should let them know that he is the one that is a little crazy.

Answer 2

You lost your temper. I'm sorry. I know how it feels. I haven't done something like that, but I have gotten so angry that I just really don't have control. If this is the only time it's happened, appologize, talk to your relative and explain why you got angry, then let him explain. Remember: Time is a healer.
If you find yourself frequently angry / having bursts of anger like that, sometimes counseling can be helpful. My best wishes and good luck!

Answer 3

Are you all getting together for the holidays? If you are, make it a point to apologize to him and the rest of family at the same time, say at dinner. Tell them that you are very sorry for the way you acted, even though you were provoked, what you did was still wrong, and you are going to learn from your mistakes.

After you make this open apology to your family, I suggest that you ask your relative to stop picking on you and continue to ignore him whenever possible. Ask your mom and other relatives for suggestions in stopping his behavior toward you. If you have to don't have any contact with him.

If this situation doesn't get better, talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school.

Answer 4

Ignoring minor behavior is challenging, but necessary when dealing with someone like that..he undoubtedly is seeking attention from you, and the fact that you are not giving it to him is probably making things worse. You parents should have intervened before it got physical. Don't worry about what people are saying... just make it clear that the two of you have differences that need to be resolved before any more interaction takes place. Otherwise ignore the heLL outta him.

Answer 5

#1 .... the only thing you have control over is YOURSELF. When you let a twit like that goad you into going off, you have given him your power! Stop that! That was a stupid thing to get into an argument over!

#2 ... hit the hardware store and get a lock on your bedroom door and USE IT whenever you need to concentrate. If you are inside your locked room and this idiot wants attention, you tell him you are sick and it is contagious or something like that.
You can also get some foam safety earplugs to block out any other noise when you need to focus.

Answer 6

Your cousin or whatever he is was WAY out of line. He should NOT enter your bedroom. If I were your parent, I would ban him from the house, never mind what his family says.

I understand what you did. You were afraid of him and you did what you could to defend yourself. That said, I don't want you to end up in jail. The police are not very understanding in this sort of situation... Anyway, if you had killed him you would never have forgiven yourself.

Your parents have gotta keep this guy out of the house, relative or no relative. And you should learn self-defence so that you feel confident in using non-lethal force to protect yourself.

Answer 7

Counseling. Seriously.

Answer 8

Who is the relative? His he a older sibling if not he should go. That is your mothers house and yours if you are a minor. If you aren't still a minor that is your mother. She should tell him its time to go. Is he paying bills there? This is a hard situation. Nobody should put there hands on a person child.

Answer 9

call the police, tell them your mentally sick brother assaulted you with a perilous weapon. kin ties do no longer matter while your existence is at stake. you ought to think of of your self and your protection first, notwithstanding who it upsets interior the kin.

Answer 10

Therapy. APOLOGIZE. Perhaps anger management.