Ok me and my boyfriend are thinking of getting engaged before we buy the ring. he and i are both 18 years old but hes just starting out with california department of forestry.....a firefighter if your not familiar with that kind of stuff. hes gonna propose to me but we both dont think our parents would be too supportive with it right yet cause december 4th was our 3 month mark. but the story is that his parents were engaged and married after 3 months, so we think his parents would be okay with it. now my parents not so much, but just to be safe we dont wanna tell the right yet. so he proposes to me and when the time is right he does it again in front of the family. But b/c our we arent sure of our families's reaction we cant really ask them things without questioning, and arguements and such, so i was wondering if anyone knew a few things that they could tell us. when he proposes, what finger does it go on? when we get married does the ring hand change? wuts the importance and diff....
2007-12-07 13:57:27 · 10 answers · asked by hey buddy! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
between the engagement ring and the wedding ring. is the engagement ring the diamond or stone and then the band is the wedding ring? when he buys it does he buy the set or the engagement and wedding rings separate? Please give us any information cause im really lost, and YES im sure i wanna marry so young for all you who want to know...lol. Im just really not sure how some of this stuff works and asking my mother of all people is NOT an option if you knew her.
thank you for your input :)
2007-12-07 14:00:07 · update #1
nobody has ever taught me this kind of stuff so i wouldnt know. im the oldest and i never had this conversation with my mother. we dont talk about this kind of stuff in our family so...yea....im not immature i just never learned this stuff. not my fault i was deprived of this info
2007-12-07 14:01:39 · update #2
Isuggest taking it slow, you have your whole life ahead of both of you and you honestly cant say you know EVERYTHING about a person after three months. Your still in love with the idea of him. Have you lived together? That plays a huge factor! And you dont want to rush into a commitment just to have it annuled or divorced later. Three months is a short time, best to wait until your one year mark. You dont even know what finger the ring goes on. Or when and what the factors of marriage and engagements are. Take it slow and do not rush into something so soon. If you, yourself cant answer the question your asking then thats the red flag that it is too soon! I'm 19 and my husband is 29. When we got married I knew what I was getting into and the factors that played. I didnt have to ask anyone what I should tell my dad or what finger the ring went on. I knew that I was ready. Life plays out differently for different people. Do you really want to rush into something just to have it not work in the end? Who knows..it may work but it may not. Just think about it, seriously and thoughtfully think about it. But to answer your questions..the ring goes on your left hand, ring finger. And it does not change when you get married. You have your engagement ring which you wear until the wedding day and during the ceremony you get your wedding band..thus becomes a wedding set. Good luck and Best Wishes.
2007-12-07 14:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring goes on left hand, finger next to the little one...it doesn't change when you get wed.
Being engaged is a big commitment, but if you have that connection & can see yourselves growing old together then go for it!
If you have even a single doubt then you should maybe leave it a while
2007-12-07 22:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the engagement ring and wedding ring both go on the left ring finger.(that's the one next to the pinky)
m husband and i got married at 18 after only 2 months of dating. if his parents did it, that doesn't mean that it'll work out for you, but it doesn't mean that it won't either.
take time. make sure that you know eachother first. i'm going through moments in which i'm second guessing my choice- not because i don't love my husband, but because i'm learning so much more about him.
ask him to talk to your parents about it. it's a very big step in all of your lives.
if you need help or more advice. email me.
2007-12-07 22:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lili 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged and then getting married happens spontaneously whether parents agree or disagree. You are actually daydreaming of a drama-sort-of-thing in your life. Let go of the idea and allow spontaneity to happen. What will be, will be. ...THINK, LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP!!!!
2007-12-07 22:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by 102845 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask those questions, you are way to immature to be engaged or married. Grow up a little and then consider it.
2007-12-07 21:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married a few months after i met my hubby...i was 18 when i got preg. w/my 1st child....from my experience i would say stay engaged for a while b4 you get married to see if you all can really handle each other...
2007-12-07 22:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by 1 UnIqUe InDiViDuAl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you would like to spend the rest of your life with this person and your both of age than go for it. Remember marriage is a big responsibility it requires sharing and caring if you wish to do this for that person the rest of your life than go for it.
2007-12-07 22:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by vanallenbelt1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about the ring first, and remember, ussually after a marrage is the honeymoonn and that means "motel", if you know what i mean, so grow up first
2007-12-07 22:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you postpone taking this step for at least a year?
2007-12-07 22:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
way too young + wayy too little time together = disaster + guaranteed divorce
2007-12-07 22:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋