My new girlfriend and I have been going out for about four and a half months.
She seemed like the perfect girl..really nice, takes care of herself (very beautiful), no children, educated, and from a nice family.
Even though we took everything slow..we seemed to fall for each other fast. Our parents even had a cookout together this summer.
THEN the relationship became physical...it was perfect. I had never felt so attracted to my lover, and satisfied. About a week and a half ago- she dropped a real bomb.
I know she just said this to share everything with me, but it still hurts. She told me she had sexually been with over 50 men(this is just the full intercourse number- she don't remember oral/other).She said she was wild in high school, and college (she's now 27).
My whole image of her is blown, and I don't find myself wanting to be with, or attracted to her anymore.She doesn't know whats wrong.Is it the fair thing to just break up, this has changed my feelings for her?
2007-12-07 13:51:42 · 3 answers · asked by baron d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if you are that shallow, self-centered, controlling and insecure, yes you should dump her. A girl that great deserves a real man.
2007-12-07 13:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the fair thing here is to be honest with her about how you are feeling. Try not to hurt her feelings about it. Her past shouldn't be held against her. These things happened before you met and really shouldn't even be relavent to your current relationship.
I think the right thing here is to accept her for her. She might have been wild but you are the guy that tamed her! You are giving her the perfect amount of physical, emotional and mental love...something those other guys didn't have. If any of them did, she'd still be with one of them.
I think you should take a while to think things over. You can either accept her and her past and go on to marry the girl of your dreams or hold it against her and break things off. Which decision are you most likely to be OK with?
Honestly? I think you are still in the infatuation part of your relationship. You had this perfect image of her in your mind and your head and heart were still in the clouds. Now there is a blemish in your vision of her. This is where the love part is supposed to come in. This is how you will really know that you do, in fact, love her. If you can accept her as she is, and still feel the same love in your heart for her - only then you will know that it was meant to be and you can start with the mature-love part of your relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-12-07 14:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by MelT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50 men? Wow and I thought women with 2 were bad. I guess you make the 51st. If you have lost all interest in her then the best thing is to tell her you are no longer interested in her. For the fact she laid down with you then she has not changed. Any woman that talks about her sex life like that has no respect for herself at all. I hope she doesn't carry any diseases with 50 men she is bound to have something. Count your blessings that you found out now instead of later like in marriage. Would you want her to be the mother of your kids? Just goes to show that you may have all the beauty and money in the world, but if you don't have any morals what's the point?
2016-05-22 02:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋