the man has about 5 days to live, refuses to eat or drink (hard to say since he can't speak), and is being pumped with morphine for the pain. my mother says that he should try to send him to the best cancer center, but he says that he might not have a chance. my dad has saved hundreds and hundreds of lives, has made people cancer-free, and given hope to thousands.... don't you think it would be right for him to try his best and to try and save one of his dearest friends? he has a total air head wife who is responsible for him, and she doesn't give two shits about him....
2007-12-07 13:47:13 · 7 answers · asked by Połska 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
It sounds like he's past the point and should just be kept comfortable. Cancer does kill people even with the best care on the planet. If someone says that he's only got 5 days left, his organs are not doing their job and are probably too damaged to heal.
This is going to be hard on your Dad. If he could do something, he would. I'm sure he knows that pain relief is probably the only choice right now.
Don't be too hard on the wife. You don't know what she is going through right now and things are about to get really hard for her.
PS
If I'm dying, I hope I have someone like you and your Dad on my side.
2007-12-07 13:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by chuckyoufarley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say about your father is true, then chances are your father knows if he will be able to take care of him or not. Sometimes, there just isn't anything you can do, and unfortunately it doesn't matter how much you know and how much you love a person. I think maybe your dad realizes that since his best friend doesn't have long, it would be better to simply keep him comfortable, and not ruin what short time he has by forcing him to undergo rigorous surgery and treatments. . Right now, your best bet is to just comfort your dad.
2007-12-07 21:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Saoirse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a tough situation. On the one hand, doctors are generally discouraged from treating their friends and family since their objectivity and medical judgement can be severely compromised. In addition, if his doctors have already determined that he is terminally ill, there is most likely not much that your dad, or any other doctor, could do for him.
However, if you dad, using his objective judgement and acting as a doctor, not a friend, believes that there may be an option for his friend, it could not hurt to try. But he would need to ask himself whether his judgement is as a physician who is considering all realistic medical aspects, or as a friend who is desperate to do anything he can to save his friend.
2007-12-08 02:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that the cancer must have taken a while to develop and get to the point it is right now. He could have gotten help then, not now where it is almost too late. You cannot control how others lead thier lives. U may want your dad to help, but maybe his friend does not want any help and has made his peace and is ready to move on to whatever awaits us.
2007-12-07 21:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by RENEE915 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancer sucks to watch someone die your dad probably cannot save this man and knows that sometimes you have to just let go
2007-12-07 21:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by anajcrave 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are worst things in life than death. perhaps living with the pain and enduring what he needs to endure just to keep living is not worth it. remember your dad is a man just like everyone else altho he has knowledge to help people not everything in this world can be fixed. sometimes it is better to just ease the pain than to allow someone to suffer so that you can say they are still living.
2007-12-07 21:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Chris E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your dad is fully aware of his responsibilities and his abilities in the situation, try trusting his judgement.
2007-12-07 21:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋