Not only that, we are both in the same field and our professional paths cross. He is acting like he just me. Not only that, he doesn't want people to know we are dating. I feel like we have nothing to hide. Should I come clean to others that we are involved or just go along with the flow of his "just professional colleagues" stance? My opinion is that because we both have big networks of mutual colleagues, it's going to come out anyway.
2007-12-07 13:38:56 · 14 answers · asked by Tinkerbell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we do not work together. we work in the same field in the same large city.
2007-12-07 13:44:12 · update #1
I wrote this confusing. We are dating. He doesn't want anyone to know we are dating. That's what I don't like. I don't see the reason to hide it.
2007-12-07 13:46:29 · update #2
Maybe he is waiting until the time is right for him to tell people.
2007-12-07 13:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking are two different questions!
I wouldn't worry if he doesn't want people to know you met via the internet. Even in this day, there is still a stigma attached to people that date via the internet. He just might not be comfortable with that stigma (it might even hurt his/your reputation when going for parts).
As for hiding your relationship, I can see how that would hurt your feelings. You feel like he is ashamed of going out with you. However, maybe a "single guy" may be more marketable in acting circles.
Bottom line: If you are not comfortable with how you are being treated, find someone that will treat you the way you desire. If you want to stay with him, then talk to him about why he is acting this way.
2007-12-07 21:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is lying about how he met you and lying that you are dating at all. How many lies are you willing to endure?
If your boyfriend chose you to date he must be have reasons. Usually, a guy is proud about his girl. But instead of introducing you to others as you are and telling them the true story of how you met he is just making up lies. This leads me to believe that he wants to hide the truth for some reason. Either he is embarrassed about the story of how you met and who you are or he is a pathological liar. If he's hiding you, imagine how many other lies he's hiding? Do you really want to be a part of that?
Ditch him now. It doesn't matter than you met online and that you are in the same professional fields. If he is in the habit of being dishonest and deceitful, and force you to go along with it, he's trouble! Make him own up to you and how you met or tell him to hit the road! Do it now or you might find yourself unhappy in a relationship or marriage, trapped in his web of lies. Life is too short for that, honey!
Good Luck.
2007-12-07 21:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by MelT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if the guy is embarassed about how you met. It really isn't any of anyone's business.
However, I question why he doesn't want anyone to know that you are dating. That sends up red flags for me. If you don't work in the same building, etc., what does it matter?
Is he married? Is he just using you? Is he a player? Those are some of the questions that I would be asking myself.
Good luck.
2007-12-07 21:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's dating you, not engaged to you. He doesn't have to tell anyone he doesn't want to. Especially at work. It's a bad idea. Work and sex/relationships don't mix, don't work out and never end well. He apparently can separate his professional life from his private life, why can't you? Romances do not belong in the office.
2007-12-07 21:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he's just worried you my crush his ego in front of his boys. He would only lie to create a better image of you. So give him space if he asks. i understand that feeling, but when u do talk to him AT work keep it professional, bc there's an unlimited amount of problems that can happen.
2007-12-07 21:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LET ON! Go with the flow if you want to keep Mr. Internet..my advice. He obviously has his reasons why he is keeping it low key...go with it. If it comes out on it's own so be it, but don't let it be because of you.
2007-12-07 21:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need their judgements, and does he? If he's ashamed that you are involved, dump him. Otherwise, agree on a plausible and acceptable story of how you got together and save the truth for the two of you.
2007-12-07 21:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We waited for it to come out. It's probably just a contingency to avoid professional drama.
2007-12-07 21:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting a girl on the Internet is viewed as geeky by guys. How do I tell my male friends that? You tell me!
2007-12-07 21:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋