pre-marital sex-should a christian who is a virgin-?

Question

get married?
its seems that if you can refrain from sex than the bible says you shouldnt marry-if you are a virgin it seems you can refrain-

any thoughts-thanks in advance for any answers-smile and enjoy the night


8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Answer 1

Interesting from 1 Corin Chapter 7..i have read that numerous times but that was an interesting way of putting it. I would like to get married tho I am a virgin, but not for the sex. Just for the companionship..

Answer 2

@ one heart one love: pre-marital sex is not prohibited in every religion. Pagans honour sexuality as healthy, natural expression of love between consenting parties, married or otherwise. Marriage is a sacrament of the Christian church that some religions don't even ascribe to. There can never be an answer to any question that begins "How do Christians see..." or "what do christians believe...." because there are so very many sects of Christianity, and then, of course, so many individuals whose actions may not reflect official church doctrine. Too bad you've had such a bad experience. My advice is to get the pre-marital sex question right out in the open and don't make any pre-judgments based on their religion. Good Luck!

Answer 3

If they do not have a need for sex, then it would be good for them not to marry. I am speaking of Christians and no one else. The reason Christians, if they can refrain from desires of sexual pleasure, not to marry .... is because it frees them up for the ministry. As a married person, I can not drop everything and run off to another country and witness there. (My family would not want to go and it may cause problems) If I am not married, I am able to freely decide for myself and myself alone to go to other countries and area's and be a witness for Christ.

So, if someone does not have those desires, then it would be best to stay single. However, someone who remains a virgin until marriage does not mean they do not burn with the desire for it. It just means they were able to withstand the desires until the acceptable time.

Answer 4

Even if you do have passion and lust you still have will power and hopefully this will be strong enough to hold you back until you do get married. Just because you're a virgin and have the will to refrain doesn't mean that you don't have passion. It means you're saving yourself for your future spouse and are strong enough (by God's grace)to not give in.
The Bible says that if you can refrain from any TEMPTATION or LUST (not sex neccessarily) then it would be good not to marry. But that's not typical for most humans. Virgins have their fair share of temptation.

Answer 5

I would think that it is a struggle for most young people who want to wait until marriage to have sex. This culture we live in throws sex at us from every side, it is very difficult to stay pure. I have refrained for 30 years, but I still really want to have a husband some day when God brings one my way.

Marriage is a God thing too, remember, "It is not good for man to be alone", but Paul is just saying that there are benefits to being single.

I'm glad for my single state because it leaves me free to take off and go to Africa on short term and now long term missions. I have married friends with kids who tell me how they wish they could do the things I can do, but they have family holding them back. Single life is simply not to be scorned.

Answer 6

The bible says this:
Isaiah 56
"4 For this is what the LORD says:
"To the eunuch (a castrated man) who keep my Sabbaths,
who choose what pleases me
and hold fast to my covenant-

5 to them I will give within my temple and its walls
a memorial and a name
better than sons and daughters;
I will give them an everlasting name
that will not be cut off. "

So I'm thinking a good Christian man should have his testicles removed.....

And 1 Corinthians 7 reads, "25Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy. 26Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. 27Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. "

So there you have it; more biblical mumbo jumbo christians pass off as "wisdom."

Answer 7

A widow was once married. There is no problem with virgins getting married. The problem is when people have sex without marriage. If one is not interested in sex and chooses to remain celibate, that is okay too

Answer 8

That advice was given at a specific time to a specific group. People were killing Christians more or less for sport back then. Combine that with the fact that Christians felt called to evangelize, and you're talking about a situation that's undeniably dangerous. He discouraged marriage because (1) you don't really want to abandon your family, and if you were evangelizing back then you probably would through death or imprisonment, and (2) marriage was likely to make you less zealous about evangelizing, since you would have another person to protect.

Answer 9

Sure...

I am celebate and I like it. I do not feel that it is best that I get married because I enjoy being celebate so much.

It's not for everyone, some people really should get married, just as it directs in the scripture you gave... there is no shame in that at all. It's quite good... and I'm happy for all the people who choose it.

It's just that I've decided it is most definately not for me.

Blessings...

L

Answer 10

If you want to get married only to have sex than that's not a good idea. If you want to marry because you love the person and want to have a life together and have kids, that's a much better reason.