my son's father does nothing for him he doesnt even c him. any thoughts on it? y do men do that?
2007-12-07 12:39:58 · 14 answers · asked by silkydreamgirl10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Michael i was getting mad at what u wrote because he hasnt seen his son since march 24 he does call i dont even know where he is i would love for him to be apart of his son's life. i kno what it feels like to not have a father but my father took care of me and my 2 brothers until the day he died. i guess thats y im so angry. I dont kno any1 who doesn't take care of their children. but i do thank u and every1 for ur answers. u also mad me laugh when u said he could jus be a deadbeat after making that long speech so thank you for making my day! lol
2007-12-07 13:54:40 · update #1
thank u big bully i thought about that 2
2007-12-07 13:56:22 · update #2
kay l please that has nothing to do with my son
2007-12-07 15:02:59 · update #3
TO: White tiger - That is the most ignorant thing I have ever heard. You can't answer everything with the bible. Don't make the girl loose hope for men with a stereotype, Jesus!
Moving on.
He might feel like it is an impossible situation, but that does not mean he does not love his child. He just might not be expressing it right. Some people run from their troubles, some people get motivated. 3 months after my child was born, his mom and I split because she blocked me from so many opportunities to be close to my son. For 4 months after that I felt like it was impossible to get to my child through her as she used my son as a pawn against me for her anger. I took some pictures, videos, and some audio recordings to court, and have fought a battle for a year and a half now. I do it because I love my son, and I have the ability and motivation to be with my son. So far court has given me 50%, which is far more than anything his mother ever gave me. Nothing makes me jump faster than hearing my little 2 year old say "Daddy!" I also encourage his relationship with his mom. I know she loves him, and he loves her. Mom just has no idea the bad advice she got from grandma when the situation went wrong. After all grandma is an abuse victum, and Im sure her advice has something to do with the fact that two loving parents are not together. That will never stop me from being there for my son.
If you want your child to have a father, and you and the father are seperated. You are going to have to find a way for the father to have time with the child with you being seperate, or not there. The key thought is you two are seperated now, so will be your relationships with the child.
If you and the father are together, but he is not being a part of things. Check yourself and how much you actually make him FEEL encouraged to have a role. You two are together, and need to pick up where the other one leaves off as a team. It is not something that happens on its own, but something you make space for. Sooner or later he is going to realise that there is nothing to be scared of, as long as you do not make it harder for him, he should be able to blossom a relationship with his child.
A lot of situations gone wrong are from peoples selfish expectations. After it goes wrong, the stuborness that keeps it from coming back together has a lot to do with the lack of support, or bad influence from others around.
Then again, he could just be a dead beat
2007-12-07 13:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a dead beat. I'm 14 years old and I have 3 younger brothers ages 13,10,8. My father does the exact same thing. He doesn't see us. He doesn't help my mom with us or anything. He tells us he's never gonna talk to us again whenever we tell him we need something. My mom tries her hardest to get us everything we need but times get hard. I hate my dad because of how he acts. One day he'll regret everything
2014-07-06 10:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he is paying child support. If he isn't, get on that.
I don't really understand anyone who don't want anything to do with their children, there are women just as bad.
What you can do? Is be a great mom and never let a selfish man into your life again.
2007-12-07 12:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl!
It's not really a man thing, but the Bible speaks of this. "Men shall be lovers of themselves...without natural affection." This is the last day, and your ex is suffering the last day signs.
2007-12-07 13:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by White Tiger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no idea ...this has happened to my child too...I wonder the same thing.
It's hard and it hurts....but...
We just need to be the best mommy that we can be...care for and love our child/children more than ever....and don't bad mouth our child's father...that only hurts our child...children know they are 1/2 his and what we say about him applies to them (they think). You aren't alone. Hang in there.
2007-12-07 12:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lily Flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it was hatred, she cheated and filmed it, I sent child support, but couldnt ever get near her again.
My hatred was more for her than my love was for the child.
Now he is gone, and I never got the chance to see him,
See what hate does?
oh, yeah, I learned, but havent changed, I hate her worse for letting a 16 year old have a sports car. Yes a single car rollover.
2007-12-07 12:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Irresponsibility. Men like that are a dime a dozen on the street corner.
2007-12-07 12:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because he is not ready to commit himself to a child, i'd think... and he's irresponsible and likely has no integrity.
your child is better off with YOU and others in his life who love him... (or her).
take care.
2007-12-07 12:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship where there was no love to begin with.
2007-12-07 13:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they are irresponsible and want to have freedom instead of being tied down.
2007-12-07 12:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by thamanna_13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋