If you are in a terrible relationship with ongoing emotional mental physical abuse such as name calling, putting you down, using psychological torture etc, then you take a stand and he smiles and says to you, you will never have the strength to leave me, you will never stop caring and laughs. Why do you think he said that? Do you think he really dosent want me to stop caring? he cant surely think i would stay around with that treatment? It took me months to do this because he wasnta bad guy at first. He hooked me then started abusing. Does he think i would come back or never leave him?
2007-12-07 12:33:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
He's exhibiting classic abuser psychology on you. He knows he's got you hooked and he can (and will) do anything he wants to you because he's sure you'll never leave him - he feels that you can't exist without him.
Do yourself a HUGE favor and leave him, no regrets, don't look back.......just go. He's a dangerous man.
By the way, this type of guy is always a great guy to begin with - they're charming and attentive........then they slowly break you down emotionally. It's what they do.
2007-12-07 12:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by mollyflan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason he said it, if it matters, is because he believes it and based on past history, he's right. You have put up with it and not left him, so he has no reason to believe you will now.
Men like this don't 'love'. They believe they have ownership over you. You will probably need to involve the police at some point. Don't hesitate to do so if he starts to stalk or harrass you once you leave (if you leave). Hopefully you will.
If you feel unsafe when you want to pick up your possessions, get the police to come with you. You need to be careful, as men like this can be very dangerous, even deadly, as you probably know.
2007-12-07 15:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Okay does it really matter why he would say that to you? Come on girl, God gave you brains!!! Use them, and find someone who is worthy of you! No one needs to go through that. Do you realize there are woman all over the world that are forced to be in arranged marriages, with horrible ogars and cowards of men that push them around and beat them........., They cant leave b/c they dont have that choice where they live. This is America, and we get to decide who we want to be with.
I was with a "guy" just like yours years ago. He loved me then he hated me. I was only 18, and did not have the confidence to understand my worth and that I needed to leave him. THankfully his "mommy" stepped in and moved him back home (3 states away), and while he was gone, I figured things out.
Just please, if you stay with him, Dont have any kids! It is one thing to volunteer yourself for abuse, it is another to force children to be abused. Best of luck to you
2007-12-07 12:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you were ready to leave this relationship... you would NOT be spending any time worrying about what the hell he means by what he said. To me, what he said is another example of his manipulation and abuse. I read nothing more into it than that. It's a really rude and uncaring thing to say.
2007-12-07 12:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stuck around for 30 years. He figures you will too. Get some help. Please-that will give you the strength to leave.
2007-12-07 12:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Like a typical abuser he probably thinks you won't leave him. You have to be strong and get away from him
2007-12-07 12:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you Chained Up in the basement ?
Do you need a Key?
Sounds like alright Guy he left you keyboard !
post a pic
2007-12-07 12:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm...you need to LEAVE! L-E-A-V-E.
That is yet another way of putting you down.
hes trying to say that he has control over you, that you wont really levae even if you say you will, so he is going to keep on abusing you. Hun, you need to get outta that realtionship. I'll pray for you (I'm serious).
2007-12-07 12:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by rcemshsr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be put through that. You have the strength but you have to find it within yourself. Good luck.
2007-12-07 12:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 20:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋