If i ask a girl out, and she says yes, i'll be happy and so on. But if she turns me down, then i'm pretty sure that it'll spread around the school, which I dun want to happen. Because she might tell her best friend, and her best friend will definitely spread that. And after that, my friends will know, etc. And than, i'll probably be too embarresed to talk to her again in class, and her best friend, who i see everyday in 3 classes, and same next semester, will probably look at me in a different way. Basically I think that if I get a yes, i'll be happy. If I get a no, i'll be worse off than i am now, even though people say that if its a no, u r no worse than before. So how do I get over this? And i'm worried of this, because i'm still not sure she likes me, so theres a big chance of her rejecting me still.
2007-12-07 11:32:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rejection is always hard to take and nobody enjoys it but you find is that most people who are a success do experience rejection and learn to deal with. If you do get rejected it could be for reasons that are nothing to do with you and out of your control, she may just not want a boyfriend at this moment in her life. She may like you but not fancy you. I have never know someone who asked a girl out getting mocked for asking regardless of the outcome it will be yesterdays news very quickly. Keep it all in perspective, just have fun.
2007-12-07 11:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking her out in a group setting first...maybe with a couple of other friends...that way you can get a better feel of what she's thinking or if she might like to go our with you one-on-one.
I know how scary it can be asking girls out, but by not asking her, you'll never get the chance to go out with her.
If she does say no, back off a little and ask her again down the road a bit. But don't pester her to death!!! If she doesn't like you, there's not much you can do about it.
But by no means let a rejection make you embarrassed or afraid to talk to her. Just say "hi" when you see her and leave it at that. Maybe she'll start to notice you more and change her mind.
2007-12-07 11:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Joe B. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't whine. Ask her out. The worst that can happen is she'll say no and tell a few friends. Big deal, at least they'll know you had the balls to ask her out instead of being a chicken or just staring at her from across the room like some kind of stalker freak. And if she says yes, then great, you're in Happy Land. At least until you totally embarrass yourself on the date, but that's another question.
2007-12-07 11:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by That's a Stupid Question 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this and I can tell you from experience the only thing that works is just sucking it up and taking a chance. even if she turns you down and people talk so what?? ask someone else. and keep an eye out for the girl who's into you. I PROMISE you you're not the only one who's going to get turned down.
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2016-10-10 12:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirt with her
she wont spread it along
girls will tell the best friend but it wont go any farther than that
i have so many best friends that are girls believe me i know
or you can do what i did and tell the girls best friend that you like that you like this girl
then you ask her to test the water for you
have the best friend ask the girl what she thinks of you in a way that wont seem obvious
then the best friend will say yay or nay
this way its not awkward fo you or the girl or the best friend
you wont get turned down
it works like a charm bro
=]
2007-12-07 11:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by KIRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has the nerve to embarrass you, then you should feel better knowing that that DEFINITELY was not the girl for you. That's rude.
IF she says yes, you'll be real happy
take the risk, it's ALWAYS worth it
you don't want to be the one kicking yourself in the end for never taking the chance. give it a try, it could be the greatest thing, who knows.
2007-12-07 11:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a long time to figure this one out. Girls like guys who have confidence. So go ahead, ask her out. And don't be all wishy washy about it...be clear that it's a date, and be sure to compliment her before you ask.
If she says no, move on. If other's find out, who cares, having the confidence to ask a girl on a date doesn't diminish your status, even if you do get rejected.
2007-12-07 11:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if it spreads? Rumors always spread, its school...
Just dont worry about the negative, go for the positive. Good luck!
<3
2007-12-07 11:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang. dude, you worry too much. first of all, even if she does say yes, what happens when you break up? sure it seems like the relationship will last forever while its still thriving, but once its over you feel like a complete idiot. dating changes people and ask yourself if its worth it, do you really like her this much? try being friends.
2007-12-07 11:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋