my neighbor's oldest son is a bully. He likes to manipulate the other children during playtime and even gets physical with the boys, including his own little brother. With the girls, he calls them names and makes them feel like trash. My daughter has complained about him on several occasions but tonight I had it. I went straight to him and told him "It needs to stop and it's going to stop NOW. You are a bully and if I hear or see you bullying ever again, I will tell your mother and you will be in big trouble. It has to stop NOW."
I felt good for confronting him right then and there in front of the other boys. But my question is, then what? What if he continues? His parents don't really do much with him. They might tell him to stop, or that he's in time out, but that's about it. The vocabulary he uses actually comes from his own father. What would be the next step is this happens again and his parents don't do anything about it. It's not like school where he could get suspended.
2007-12-07 11:12:53 · 6 answers · asked by lasm97 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The hardest part is that mom is my friend so it makes it very uncomfortable, but my daughter comes first! I stopped going to her house to scrapbook because her kids were all over the place during our "ladies time". They are so permissive of their kids.
2007-12-07 22:18:15 · update #1
His mother will not do anything. It is up to you to protect your children when they are young. Please keep them away from him. In later years you will notice he will be similar to the one shooting at the mall . I would consider moving
2007-12-07 11:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think i would get the cops involved, and i'd be watching the kids like a hawk with a camera or video camera in hand thats for sure, so when the cops do get called the asshole parents can't twist the things, you'll have proof. And personally, i'd yell or tell the kids to stop if the mother isn't doing it, especially if they are on your property dumping drinks, and throwing trash there. I'd even ask the bus driver if they happened to see the the little girl get punched, i believe they have video recorders on buses, i'd call the school and ask to look at those recordings to to see if they're picking on your kids on the videos too. The school has to be able to do something as far as getting picked on at the bus stop.
2016-05-22 02:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have told his parents about it the first time.
Each time he is a bully someone should tell his parents.
After just a little while they know it looks horrible on them, and there is a HUGE social precedent. Maybe they even care that he grows up into a decent person.
His parents are the people most likely to be able to influence him, and most responsible. You dont want to do something that can end up like the this mom (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21844203/). You know how bad teenage girls can be to each other and the mom probably never expected this outcome. Use the right channels - her parents.
Get it on video. Let his parents watch. Make them see it.
You really really should ask a police officer. They can tell you all the right, allowable, effective ways to work this.
http://www.bullypolice.org/
http://www.focusas.com/Bullying.html
http://www.jaredstory.com/bullying_whattodo.html
2007-12-07 11:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that could happen is that the children don't want to play with this boy during playtime any longer & you forbid the "bully" to come into your yard. If the children would gather in your yard & when the "bully" enters the yard, the children would tell him that they don't want to play with him cause he's not nice. Are the parents of the other children aware of the "bully?" If not, enlighten them in casual conversation. They can decide how they want to deal with this situation. I applaud you for speaking to the "bully" & hopefully it will make a difference. No doubt, his being a bully has a lot to do with his home life. Perhaps he's imitating his father. Sad!!!
2007-12-07 11:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kudos to you for standing up to him!
You have to lay down the law with his parents... spell it out... they are totally responsible for their son's actions until he is 18. If they get the clear idea that allowing their son to continue bullying the other kids will become a pain-in-the-fanny for them, they will probably take some steps to stop it.
Follow up the conversation with a letter and CC it to both the school principal, your homeowner's association, and a caseworker with the local police... have it delivered by certified mail (they have to sign for it).
A lot of cities have an anti-bullying taskforce... you will want to contact them first to start a file and get some good advice.
2007-12-07 15:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bullies will always be bullies/ Why dont you video to show the parents what goes on ?Then they might act if they have proof.
2007-12-07 16:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋