Lets say you meet somebody and you fall in love with them like never before. You are sure you won't feel this strongly about anybody else ever. You soon find out they are a fundamentalist christian and they think you are going to burn in hell. (but god is loving.) This person is willing to stay with you but they constantly bring up religion after they find out you are an atheist. Do you try to reason with them? Do you convert? Do you pretend to convert? Do you just go on with the relationship the way it is? Or do you run for the hills?
2007-12-07 10:56:27 · 35 answers · asked by ty c. 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-12-07 10:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the guy. But where is this proof that Atheists have a higher IQ? That is ridiculous. I don't want to hear any people claiming it's true, simply because they want to believe it. I want a RELIABLE source. Not that there is one. Atheists are just trying so hard to disprove what they cannot. So, they just throw insults instead. Certainly someone with a different belief or perspective MUST have a lower intelligence, right? *dripping sarcasm* I don't like being around religious people who are self-righteous, hypocritical, and narrow-minded. However, I also find these attributes to be insufferable in Atheists. If you Atheists at Y!A want to help your cause, then consider the possibility that you are not the only intelligent beings on the planet, are completely average (just like nearly everyone else), and have a possibility of being wrong. Mind-blowing, isn't it? Idiots. By the way, Agnostics are the real free thinkers, anyway. To be Atheist, all you have to do is look at a few very obvious scientific errors in the bible. Then you immediately decide that if it's all not supported by science, it isn't possible. Now how does that make you more intelligent? It isn't exactly rocket science. It's a matter of OPINION. Congratulations! You've just proved that you are completely average (and possibly even below average). As I've explored both areas, religion is far more complicated than Atheism. If you truly like to think, as you claim, then try actually theorizing religion. Seriously, it's interesting and very thought-provoking. Atheism, however, took about 5 minutes to understand. (Long enough to read the definition and thumb through a fact site.)
2016-05-22 01:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell them I have no desire to have a religion as I once did, I'd let them know exactly where I stand.
Nobody will ever be convinced to change religions except by a celebrity (sounds logical, eh?) or a brainwasher. I wouldn't even try to have them convert. Don't pretend to convert either, the charade would become unbearable.
If you can both avoid religion, go ahead with the relationship, but it's unlikely marriage will ensue.
2007-12-07 11:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love someone enough, you accept them for who they are and don't give in to the delusion of hell awaiting for them.
If Christians did that.... oh hell, there'd be more Jews.
Somebody has to shift their value system or open their mind a little more... let the light expose the dust settled in their head.
If there's a chance to change, then it's true love I guess and it'll make a lasting relationship. If somebody wants to change...
If nobody wants to change for the other person because they truly love them, then I guess run for the hills.
And if you want to lie and pretend you've converted then someday havoc will wreak or maybe you have to just accept each other. Maybe she needs to ask God to bless your soul?
2007-12-07 11:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A fundamentalist Christian would bring up their Christian beliefs before starting a dating relationship, because the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. God is loving but he is also just and righteous. The people that choose not to believe in God are just not willing to leave behind their sinful and selfish desires. You are gambling with your life when you choose not to believe in God, because whether or not you believe you will face God on Judgment Day. I just pray that you become a born-again Christian before then.
2007-12-07 11:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by todd a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd end the relationship. If they are constantly bringing up religion only after finding out you don't believe then he or she is out to convert you. If you love someone you accept them the way that they are without strong-arming them to change. To not do so shows a distinct lack of respect.
I did marry a christian, but he is a liberal christian and while we may discuss religion occasionally when something pops up in the news, it is not a major factor in our relationship.
2007-12-07 11:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by genaddt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The moment she tells me I'm going to burn in Hell and won't shut up about religion would be the moment I ceased to love her very much.
I once dated a very religious Christian woman (not fundamentalist, though) and we just never discussed religion. I was perfectly happy, and we were together for a couple years. We eventually broke up over non-religious differences. So it's not someone's being religious that bothers me, it's having to decline religion every day that wears me down.
2007-12-07 11:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Pull My Finger 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There will never be peace. If you pretend, it will chew on you and you will continue to mess up and say the wrong thing or resent being controlled. If you don't they will become more and more frustrated and eventually decide there is something wrong since you will not convert and they do not want to feel like a failure and their friends at church will all be telling them to find a "good" boyfriend who is in the church or will join.
Run.
2007-12-07 11:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Amy R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't even get to the falling in love part, I'd have the religion thing covered on the first date, probably *before* the first date because I don't date theists as a rule. I want a mate with whom I have certain things in common, and atheism is always going to be a big part of who I am.
2007-12-07 11:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very unlikely I would fall in love with a fundamentalist Christian. If they are that religious I think they may have given me a hint about their zeal well before we got to I can't live without you.
No I would not convert. Maybe do a cut and run
2007-12-07 11:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, anyone who says they are "willing" to stay with me is just downright wrong. I want someone who accepts me for who I am and what I am. I can put up with them being a christian if they do not try to convert me. If they try to convert me, its like saying, "I don't like what you stand for." And I cannot fall in love with a person like that. Period.
2007-12-07 11:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Abby C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋