My sons father is with another girl thats prego but i got prego first and i want him back what do i do?

Question

I met my sons father when i was 13
it was love at first sight if you can beleve that, we were together on and off but have always stayed friends. and in may i moved to az and found out i was prego in july but by the time i was able to tell him he was with another girl and she was prego.i kno he still loves me,but does that matter ,should i leave him alone or should i fight for him?
(he knos im prego,
same age as me,
im 20 years old and a CNA so i can take care of my son)

this is my first child

Answer 1

Fight her to the death

Answer 2

She should give up the baby and if he really wants him, he should begin his own legal battle to get him. If they are not married, he is not the legal father, even if he signs the birth certificate. He must take a paternity test and have it submitted before a judge (in some states, say under oath in front of the judge that he accepts legal paternity). Only then will he be the father. She can tell anyone she wants they're the father, or not the father. There's no way to tell without the DNA test. But for her, it is her baby because it came from her. He needs to get a lawyer and start the process of proving his paternity now if he really wants to stop the adoption from happening. Additionally, the adoption is not complete until a waiting period has passed and all the legal ends are tied up - including the signing of both parents' rights away. What do you think happens when a woman doesn't know who the father is, but wants to give it up for adoption? They don't go on Maury to find out who and in the meantime both men fight over it, y'know. The dad usually comes back after the baby starts living with its new family with DNA to back it up. There have been cases where a suspected father signed over rights, but the actual father got a test and then decided to get his child back from the adoptive parents. It's a big mess. If he can't afford the legal battle, then she has nothing to worry about giving up her son. Kudos to you for being a great friend, and your friend for chosing life.

Answer 3

I can see it now...two girls fighting over a man with the words
"he knocked me up first!!!!"
"yeah but he loves me!!!!"
"but he knocked me up first!!!!"
Really does it matter that you got pregnant first or not?
Then there is this other thing.....did they teach you to spell pregnant in Nurses College? or do you plan on putting "she's prego" in a medical file?
You do mean Certified Nurses Assistant by CNA right?
Why is college so much a freaking requirement these days? I know high school drop outs who can spell better than so many people on here it's nuts.....I even point out mistakes to a "Ivy league" graduate.
Oh here's the kicker this thing has a spell checker!

Answer 4

It is down to him which one of you he wants to see. Just because you want him back does not mean that he'll come running, begging for forgivness.

If you fight for him, you could end up looking desperate (not a good quailty) so doll yourself up, pretend you are so happy on your own and have your hair done in a foxy way.

If he notices and gets interested again, then great! If not, he's not worth it and you don't deserve him.

All the best!

Answer 5

good god woman. run like hell. he got you pregnant before. you have a son. now he has another woman, plus you pregnant????? next year will it be you with two kids, the other g/f with one kid, and a third one pregnant??????

Answer 6

please dont fight for him --- it will leave you hurt and upset --- if he wanted to be with you he would and no one and nothing could pull him from your side ---- move on with your life and someone who truly cares for you and your baby will appear (its trite and cliche BUT it is true) ---- best wishes to you and your child (my daughter had 2 children to someone she loved but he too chose to leave and treated her badly)