i have my ex on my tail and a new guy they both treat me good, but the ex dumped me to go to the army and then he decided not to go and now he wants me back and the new guy well he just wants me to be happy but i think i'm still in love with the ex please help me!
2007-12-07 09:40:27 · 20 answers · asked by playgirl69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump the guy that dumped you! He didn't think twice about getting rid of you for his convenience. Why would you want to stick with a guy that will dump you again, when he's ready for another change?
He dumped you so he could feel free to go off to the military to ensure he would have enough freedom to have fun.
2007-12-07 09:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by chelseiann 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first thing first he's your EX for a reason! you either got over him very quick or your a very needed person.. well you are a girl I guess it's ok! but he dumped you and the new guy should get some respect for being there for you. I'm guessing again your one of them girl's who like's bad boy or men in change. Well army boy type's follow and when a fewel to go off again you will be asking us this same question and if you want the guy your with to lead more then just walk behind him and make him feeling the man till he learn's to be the man your looking for! Just show him but don't push the lesson.
2007-12-07 17:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex dumps you for an idiotic reason, if you get back with him then who knows what reason he will come up to dump you again.
Stay with the new guy who just wants you to be happy. There aren't many guys out there who loves you more than he loves himself. Whereas your ex loves himself more than you. Why go through the heartache again. You are very lucky to meet a guy who puts you first rather the other way around. Be wise, and be strong. Think who is best for you. Tell your ex the you don't want to go through the heartache again.
2007-12-07 17:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by mycorollababy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a nice problem! But seriously, I think the smart thing to do is to say to both, I need a break to figure out where my feelings are now.
Take at least 2 weeks and do some real thinking, don't waste the time. Ask yourself some important questions; who treats me well, does not play games, is not selfish, will be there in the long run, is supportive and respectful? Also, look at how the father's of both treat the mothers, this is your future with whomever you choose. Men follow their fathers example.
Once you keep seeing the same person in your mind that will help. But what's the rush, you can casually date (no sex) them both.
2007-12-07 17:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex dump you to go to the army, what kind of stupid excuse is that? now his plan didn't work out, he's coming back for you? what a jerk. the next time if he want to make a life changing decision or what ever not, and decide to dump you again and then take you back if his plan didn't work, do you want him back?
as for the new guy, you should stay with him, he love you for who you are, he is putting you as his top priority, hard to find one of these guys these days. you should think it through, at least for your own future, opportunities comes and goes, don't let something good slip pass you by...
2007-12-07 22:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get back with your ex. if he dumped you to leave to the army then he was just taking precaution. he probably didn't want to hurt you if y'all were in a long distance relationship or even worse what if he got deployed and you would of probably ended it with him cause all the stress. but since hes still home and not going anywhere give your relationship another chance.
2007-12-07 17:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Aikalee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is ...your ex dumped you once, ask yourself will he dump you again when he has a different excuse!?
Do what you know is best for you this time around, think with your mind first, and your heart second when it comes to your ex. (pros & cons)
2007-12-07 17:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go with your ex if you love him, and make him do something really special, that you really love, just to show him for dumping you.
2007-12-07 17:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you dont have to decide right now..i mean i say for now dont make any choice, just let things go and figure out your feelings, what u really want and whats right for you. Maybe try hanging out with them on a casual basis so that you can figure out which guy is right for you.
good luck!
*daz*
2007-12-07 17:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. maybe u need to try sumthin new. u dont need sumone that will drop u and then come back cuz THEIR plans changed. so just get to know the new guy and if the ex wanna spend let him spend
2007-12-07 17:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by iluvmeeee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋