How should i break up with my girlfriend? (i don't want to hurt her feelings)?

Question

(im 14)
well i only met her a week ago but
she broke up with her boyfriend for me the day she met me.
she seemed really cool when i first met her but i dont even like her as a friend anymore.
it seems like the closer she grows to me the more i don't want to be with her.iv'e been with her for only 5 days but ive gone farther with her than anyone else. she gave me head yesterday and wants to lose her virginity to me(im a virgin too). everything was going pretty good untill she said" i can tell were going to be together for a long time"-the my stomach turned.
i guess shes emotionally attached to me but all i really wanted was the physical relationship.

so i guess what i need to know is how can i break up with her withought hurting her?she said she loves me more than anyone shes ever been with and weve only known eachother for a few days. i almost think she somewhat crazy, and she has a strange disposition.

she says she loves me but i im only saying it back to humor her. =/

Answer 1

Just tell her how you feel. She may feel hurt, but what you are supposed to do, keep faking it or what?

Answer 2

Now, first you are not an asshole or watev. You thought someone was different then they turned out to be. If you're only humoring her, then she will keep trying to go farther, only seeing that you two are together, and not caring if you do or do not show outward signs of love/intimacy. Its called selective observing. There is no way to tell her that you don't wanna be with her, so let her down as gently as you can. She may say things, but don't hold on to something that will stop you from going out into the world and seeing what else there is. Explain your reasons, and grit your teeth. Be strong man, she'll get over it.

Answer 3

Ok, you definitely need to break it off with this girl i think she is crazy too. First of all you shouldn't be having sex at 14 anyway even if you knew her your whole life let alone one week. As much as she says it she can't love you after only a week, so it shouldn't be too hard. I say just confront her to her face and let her down gently and say your only 14 and are not ready for a long relationship and say she is moving way too fast for you. Suggest that maybe it's not too late to get back together with her old boyfriend, and you two really aren't meant to be.

Answer 4

Don't ever tell someone you love them if you don't mean it. That's cruel. Those are very big words with big meanings. If she went down on you w/ in a week of knowing you & broke off w/ someone else the day she met you doesn't say very much about her, you either, but i'm gonna stick to the question. Just be brutally honest & say exactly what you said in the question, all you want is physical & nothing more.... Tell her how you feel & if she doesn't like it then just too bad. Life goes on.

Answer 5

LOL @ haden no matter what you do youll still hurt her feelings. but you should break up with her in person not through a text however breaking up in person is very risky as she may retaliate by hurting you andd just straight up tell her that you dont have the same feelings for her that you once did

Answer 6

lol that's horrible. the whole story is horrible. i'm sorry buddy.
but you gave me a good laugh.
well you're going to hurt her feelings anyway there's no way out of it.
just tell her that you aren't ready to move on like she wants you to. you're not ready for commitment and to get married at 14. because that's basically what she wants.

just don't lie to here anymore (lol) and don't be and @$$hole about it either.
expect the tears and her friends hating you for a little while. it happens. good luck little one

Answer 7

boy "we need to talk"
girl"...."
boy "i dont love u the same way u love me, we only met for few days, lovign some one and staying with that person takes responisbility, i cant even get a job and i cannot afford a wife...so we need to break up"

been there done that, i'm 16, i'm avoiding relationship so i can concerntraight on my school work, hell lot more important then getting a boy that wants attension 24/7
teenage relationship are like soap opras thats been repeatedly playing over and over again

Answer 8

Hard situation, isn't it? Well go up to her and say this, "____, i'm talking seriously now. it's over." Say it towards the very end of the day and then leave. SHe may want to discuss things with you which wouldn't be a problem. All you have to do is explain your feelings to her instead of on yahoo answers. Tellher.

Answer 9

Bwaah ha ha ha!
You're really cruel, immature and stupid. You deceived her, used and abused her. You better not string her along any further; just tell her what you told us, that you only wanted sex and so you misled her when you said you love her and now you're finished with her and don't want anything to do with her anymore, she makes your stomach retch. Only the truth will set you free at this point. Hopefully she doesn't go looking for revenge. Bwaah ha ha ha!
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Sweetie

Answer 10

For one thing, you put that on yourself. You shouldn't have told her you loved her. And she gave you head? At 14, I can see where she's going to be. Just break up with her. Period. There's no way you can do it without hurting her, she's attached to you emotionally, and you're dealing with a psycho, move towns and change your identity.

Answer 11

Just talk to her and be honest. Honesty is the whole matter in the hart business.