My daughter is REALLY bossy and sometimes rude.?

Question

My daughter is in kindergarten and they have little sport games every now and than. She is such a leeder and always has to win. They were havng a little soccer game and this boy on the other team got the ball so she started kicking him in the legs so hard he started crying, Than without caring made the goal. . Whenever she has friendscomeover she bosses them and yells at them like yesterday she had a new friend comover who she didnt know before and they were playing wii tennis, and the other girl was doing it wrong but still having fun, and laughing. my daughter was so annoyed that she unpluggs the wii and says "Seams like your not smart enough and I am just better at a lot of things than you". The girl started crying. My daughter is a nice girl but is so used to being around older siblings that teach her how to play wii or that she see's being rough in there soccer games. I try telling her these things but she just doesnt realize she's doing this.

Answer 1

Woop her ***!

Answer 2

For some reason, your daughter is spoiled. Please donot take offense to this but it is true. She has the need to feel BETTERthan others because when she plays with older children they let her win, most if not all of the time. Or she also may be being treated in that fashion by the older children and is returning the favor. But if you don't calm her ways down and make her understand that there will be times when she loses or has to do something that other kids want to do she won't have any friends. If it keeps up> as she gets older it will be known as bullying and schools have ZERO tolerance for that. You should talk to her and explain it before it's too late.

Answer 3

This is where discipline comes in. If she does something wrong, pull her to the side and clearly state to her that it is wrong and what her consequence will be if she repeats the action. The consequence might be not being able to see her friends for a week. Maybe she can't come out of her room until dinner then right back to bed. If you believe in spanking, you could use that method. Once she learns that if she does the wrong thing she'll be punished it will help her to learn and start following directions. Only you can tell her because you are "Mom".

Answer 4

I have a news flash for you: YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT A NICE GIRL SHE IS A NASTY KID. Sorry but wake up and smell the cofee she has a real problem and if you do not fix it now she will not have any friends and unless she grows up to be Pam Anderson hot she won't get away with being a b***h in society. Usually behavior is learned so take a good long look at yourself and your husband, maybe the apple isn't far from the tree. If your other kids act like that and she acts like them then I suggest family therapy.

Answer 5

Gain and maintain control. This behavior will worsen, and will only be a matter of time before it is extended to you.

Choose which method works best for you--time out, taking away priviledges, spanking, whatever. The next time she exibits unacceptable behavior, IMMEDIATELY stop it. If it is not too bad, warn her that next time she will get punishment "x". Then follow thru. If it is very bad, punish immediately and explain very clearly why. The punishments should get harsher each successive time she does it. (Works in the penal system.)

This does not make your kid bad, she simply needs redirection and guidance. She is taking her competitiveness too far, in an unhealthy direction. Physical violence and hostile condescension is not acceptable in any amount at any age.

Good luck. It is not too late!

Answer 6

She needs to learn that's NOT proper behavior or she'll still be doing it as an adult. When she starts acting bossy, maybe a short time out might be helpful, accompanied by a talk on how to win friends and influence people.

Answer 7

My 5 year old is also in kindergarten and when she has a play date, boy is she bossy. When we lived in Israel we had to put her in the daycare all day, where she was one of the smallest kids there. Know that she is the tallest, she feels that it's payback time. Maybe your daughter is just reciprocating behavior that she has experienced before herself. Point out to her the affect her behavior is having on other kids. I doubt she really wants to hurt their feelings (or break a leg).

I also know a very good exhorcist.

Answer 8

My god you are really in trouble with this one if you don't get a handle on her behavior...she needs to play with children her own age and it sounds to me like she has learned some bad lessons with little or no punishment. Talk to a proffesional before it gets out of hand.

Answer 9

You should have put your daughter in time out and let her friend play Wii for awhile, if she doesn't play nice she shouldn't be allowed to play at all.

Answer 10

Wow, she's gonna be such a troublemaker when she's older if you don't try sort her out soon. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't know what to do. Maybe you can invite her friends round and say if your nice to your friend today then you can get a treat. Then eventually she might start being nicer to people?

Answer 11

my daughter is bossy to me but I know were it started from my parent took care of her whir I couldn't and when I would visit her my parents didn't teat me as an adult they talked to me as a child I'm not saing it's my parents fault no I acted like a child but they would say thing and do things in front of her to me ..what Im saing is that she is getting it somewhere how about that wii game ...