Has anyone ever felt this way about their relationship with their b/f or g/f?

Question

Has anyone else ever gotten the almost a panicy feeling before that you feel like you might not love your b/f or g/f anymore. My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother much more than we normally this past month. And I know I'm sort of feeling this way just because I know I need some space. When we're not together, he's always calling me to talk, and it's been kind of annoying me. I know deep down that I love him though, and I know that I want to marry him. I'm just wondering if there is anyone else out there who has experienced this in a relationship, and if so please tell me what to do. I just feel real smothered lately, but I know I still love him to death.

Answer 1

Yeah, everyone experiences that at times. All relationships need breathing space sometimes! Sounds like you could use some right now. It's not that you don't love him. You just need a break.
I like what Dr. Dobson said "Relationships are like plants. Water them too little and they die. Water them too much and they die! You've got to have just the right balance for them to grow big and strong!" (I'm paraphrasing.)
Remember just because you're feelings may be cooling for him right now it doesn't mean you don't care for him. It's like the old saying goes "Absence makes the heart grow fonder!"

Answer 2

Well regarding this I wud say that I actually have been in such a situation.. there is always a distance to be maintained in a relationship but when the mate crosses the limits at times and doesnt give much single space then this sorts of thing is experienced. It happened with me as well and in order to come out of this i just had a sound conversation with her about the same and everything resolved. we took a break from the relationship..for a week and tried to live our personal single life..and it really worked. These distances are required at times to bring up the relationship back. Go on and try the same if you want.

Answer 3

I would be honest with him, and tell him how you are feeling. Tell him that you love him very much but it is good to have a little space as well. My partner had been out of work for the last four years, due to heart problems and other things. I didnt mind at first, being around him, as I still have my three jobs. However, it bothered me when I would come home from work and find him on the play station or just sitting there watching the telly. I started to resent him being in the house, and I was paying for everything. He kept demanding money from me for golf and his lottery and for some ale as well. He was costing me £70 every week including cigs as well. He has now started a job and I think if he hadnt, I would have left with the kids after christmas. Now he is back in work, we have got that little bit of space from each other in the day. Wonderful.

Answer 4

OK yes i have i so have just tell him that you so love him and that you need a little space he should understand at least mine did and we are still happily together mine did the same if he wasn't around me 24/7 than the phone was off the hook calling cell phone ringing so just be open let him know its not him or that you want to go out or anything just that you need some space for yourself to think and stuff GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 5

i have a friend who is going through the same thing, and i'm trying to help her and say that well, you probably need to talk to him and tell "him" that you need your space. If he freaks and leaves you, that means he never liked you in the first place. It's just, if you want to be with him, hyou have to find out how to deal with him. That's the thing i'm trying to get across. Don't be afraid and don't depend too much on one person. You're a fish in the ocean, and this ocean is going to get a lot bigger, so you have a big life ahead of you. Don't let anything weigh you down. If you don't like your boyfriend anymore, you can't cheat yourself, only, the way you say it looks like you still do only you're only scared of losing him. He's probably thinking the same thing by the way he's always trying to reach you. Remember this is ur elite speaking.
-Ciao

Answer 6

Its called falling out of love, if he annoys you and you only like him when you don't have to see him too often it is time to end it and move on. You are just telling yourself deep down etc etc to make yourself feel better because you think it makes you a bad person. Get out now! If you marry this person it will only fail in the long run and you will hurt him even more. Sounds more like you are in love with the idea of being in love but not the person you are with.

Answer 7

I think you should dump everyone you get tired of until you realize there will one day come a time where you will no longer have the option to leave because you'll be so old and ugly that finding a new guy won't be as easy to accomplish. Then you'll be sad and have to settle for what you got and he won't even be someone you grew old with. Just some old retard that you found at the senior home. Won't that be more interesting?

Answer 8

That's normal in a relationship. What I would do is to tell her to give me some space. Just a little so I could breathe! Good Luck!

Answer 9

tell him if hes mature hell understand its good to be completely open like a married couple where u can get frustraeded with each other but u dont atomaticly want to break up u werk on it or just cool of like leave each other alone me n my girl are pretty kool with it somtime it can seem pretty bad but even the worst weve made it threw and u come out a stronger couple

Answer 10

well to be honest if yooh see him lyk evryday yooh will get bored. you should see him every friday and let him sleepover til sundaii and then see how that works for weeks on end.I know you love him and all but don't break up with him. When you see eachother less you feel more excited about seeing him on the weekend.thats my advice and im no agony aunt.. lol.