If my boyfriend is Mormon and I'm Christian, Could our relationship work?

Question

We always say that we are going to spend our lives together and everything. Saving ourselves until marriage but we always seem to come back to this problem about our religions.

Answer 1

Mormans are christians. What denomination of christianity do you belong to?

Answer 2

It can work but there may be a strain. I dated a mormon guy for several years. It was great, but we were just too different. Other mormons would always tell him that if we were going to get married, I would have to convert or we couldn't marry in the Temple and then you can't get to the highest tier of Heaven. I was really turned off by some of the beliefs. The missionaries even stalked me at my work, showing up looking for me weekly even though I told them no! I guess a lot of it depends on how devoted both of you are to your respective religions. I follow a lot of the Buddhist principles so it probably never would have worked for me anyway.

Answer 3

For some people, religion is a big deal. If you really want to make it work and have a life together, then you will. I'm not too familiar with Mormon, but maybe one of you can convert to the others religion? Just a suggestion. Hope for the best! Good luck!

Answer 4

If you are both practicing your faiths, then it will definitely be a problem. There are BIG fundamental differences between Mormonism and Christianity. How do you want your children raised? What church will you attend? If you're considering marriage, which it sounds like you are, then sit down with a pre-marriage counselor (you'll probably not even agree on what church they come from) and go through all the questions. BE HONEST. You will most likely decide that it wouldn't work. Sorry!

Answer 5

Work out everything about raising children and what you each believe the other's religion teaches and what you yourself believe before tying the knot. premarital counseling(secular and professional) might be useful.

A Christian(Protestant) friend married a Mormon but it did not work out because he began to put more and more pressure on her to "come out of Apostasy" and to become Mormon. When their children became 5 or so her husband insisted that the kids be raised completely Mormon. The husband also spent a great deal of time with"mormon things' and people who tried to turn her Mormon. The couple eventually divorced even thogh they had alot in common and both were morally compatible.

Answer 6

If people's religions don't matter much to them, and they're just what they happen to be because that's how they were raised, it doesn't necessarily have to be a problem.

If your religions matter then it could be a problem.

You probably couldn't be happy if you have to believe that he's headed for Hell, and you may not be happy if you learn certain attitudes that Mormons may have toward women.

If you can just go with doing everything his way he is less likely to be unhappy than you are, as far as I'm able to guess.

If you really care about each other you may want to consider canning the religions altogether, but if you really care about your religions then you may want to find someone of the same religion.

Answer 7

Saving yourselves for marriage is at least a good start.

Could the relationship work? Yes. Will it be easy? No.

Take your second sentence, for example. "Spend our lives together" is not even the way we think in the church. Yes, of course you are going to spend your lives together, but in the church we plan to spend eternity together if the marriage is performed by the sealing power of the Priesthood, as conferred upon Peter.

I do not mean to be negative, but to merely highlight that even in asking the question, you are faced with a philisophical difference. My recommendation is let the Lord be your guide. If you seek to do his will, then you can't go wrong.

Good luck!

Answer 8

In the bible it says that you are not to be unequally yoked. Mormanism is a non christian cult.

Now don't get me wrong. Some of the nicest kindest people are mormans and I have noticed that Mormans and Christians tend to be more moral and kind and trustworthy.

But this is a spiritual question not a logical or worldly question.

If it was me what I would do is both of you focus on Jesus Christ and who is really is? It will be tough but if you let go of any egos and focus on truth he should find out that mormanism is a cult.

You can see how tough this is as you don't want to offend anybody but the truth does offend if the person has arrogance.

If he can approach truth with humbleness and brutal honesty you should be ok.

I don't think you have to be unequally yoked. I think you can show him the truth of Christ.

It is better to be faithful to God than to Church Doctrine.

I'll share a quick story with you. I was brought up in the Catholic church but something made me see errors and flaws and misteachings that the church was teaching me. Nobody had an axe to grind and nobody was showing me this.

I noticed it on my own. I then started discussing this with my family (I have parents and 1 sister) and they turned on me like I was a traitor. I mean they really believed I was being a bad son.

But I kept my cool and didn't argue or debate (thats the hard part) and soon my sister started noticing what I was showing was true. Then my mom came around and finally my dad.

We are all born again Christians now and we know 100% sure we know the truth.

I have the freedom in Christ to go to a mormon church or catholic church although I haven't. But I can do business with folks of other faiths. Even Solomon the wisest man in the world did business with other religions.

But when it comes to marriage which is a spiritual thing, then we are not to be unequally yoked.

Now...there are folks that I know that go to Catholic church and they realize the errors of some of the doctrine (See not all catholic teaching is wrong most of it is correct) and I believe they are saved.

The problem is when mormons say they believe in Jesus Christ who are they saying they believe in? The Christian Jesus or the made up Mormon Jesus.


Both of those Jesus' are not the same one.

I believe however that some people that go to Mormon temple will be saved not because of the mormon church but in spite of it.

Same thing with Catholic church goers.

If one believes in the ESSENTIALS of Christianity they can be saved. They don't have to believe in speaking in tongues or baptism by water etc..

If they by faith believe that Jesus Came in the flesh and was resurrected in the flesh (Mormons believe he was only in the spirit) because Jesus told Judas put your finger in my side SPIRIT does not have flesh and bones like I have....this is one of the errors of Mormon doctrine pointed out among many more too numerous to list.

The problem is, like the Catholic church, if you go to their temple you won't hear them preaching that openly. It is only after you delve deeper into it does the blasphemy arise.

Answer 9

Dear... Love is of the Lord. Different religions are always hitting on each other because they want to be the right one. I have studied w/ many religions including the Mormons. I say you should practice what you know is in your heart because that is what God has put there. Do not be swayed by the general population.

Answer 10

I am in the same boat. I think that if you both have your own relgious beliefs it is fine. Neither of you should force your religion on another. Theres is nothing that says 2 christians of 2 denominations cannot marry. Let each other have there own religions and be together in all other aspects. One of my friends has a parent that is catholic and one that is jewish. As a child he attended both and chose which one he felt was right for him.

Answer 11

Be extra particular. what's it you do no longer understand? Why the mummy is against the relationship possibly? possibly no longer something to do with being Mormon, yet being a mom i'd guess...