Women Only!!! I have a few questions if a woman is willing to read this?

Question

Ok, 1st i'm a bit shy and a little inexperienced with relationships. I'm in college and am devoting myself and my free time to it, so no time for relationships yet.

1On a first date should the guy decide where to go or let the girl decide?
2. If the guy wants to go to like a arcade or something like that and mess around before dinner. Have some fun is that ok, as long as it's not someplace like chuck e cheese.
3. I have only an associate's degree, and with it 3 computer operating systems administration certificates. I only make about $63,000 a year. Is that decent?
4. I'm into anime and i'm not obssesive about it and don't really talk about it much except with friends that are into it.5. If the guy doesn't want you to meet certain people on his father's side of the family because they are serious Aholes and are very bad for your health is that ok?
6. If he wants to watch your favorite movies with you and vice versa would you want to?

Answer 1

1. Maybe you should let the girl decide
2. No arcade, unless the girl is into things like that
3. Your salary is good, but no female should be interested in you just because of your salary. If that's the case, find another woman.
4. If the girl likes anime, and she wants to talk about it then that's ok. If not, don't bring it up. I like anime!
5. If you have negative family members, then don't bring the girl around them. I wouldn't want to meet family members like that anyway.
6. Yes

You are a lot like me =)

Answer 2

1On a first date should the guy decide where to go or let the girl decide?~ I like the guy to decide on the first date

2. If the guy wants to go to like a arcade or something like that and mess around before dinner. Have some fun is that ok, as long as it's not someplace like chuck e cheese. ~ yep even better it lightens the mood

3. I have only an associate's degree, and with it 3 computer operating systems administration certificates. I only make about $63,000 a year. Is that decent?~ doesnt matter to me i care more about the size of a mans heart then his wallet

4. I'm into anime and i'm not obssesive about it and don't really talk about it much except with friends that are into it.~ dont care on this the guy has his things i have mine no biggie

5. If the guy doesn't want you to meet certain people on his father's side of the family because they are serious Aholes and are very bad for your health is that ok?~ sure but dont bring that up on the first date lol

6. If he wants to watch your favorite movies with you and vice versa would you want to?~ sure as long as its an even ratio and he doesnt get all hurt if i dont like his movie

Answer 3

1. Well if you are the one asking out then it is best if you have a plan. so the would mean you if you are asking.
2. Hey I am 35 and I still like chucky cheese I am not so crazy about the food but I like to play like a kid any time.
3. You should never have to ask that because if a person is going to honestly care for you, its just that they will care for you and not your income. You are going on a date not marring into royalty so don't worry about it.
4. What ever you are into its OK to talk about it the point to the date is you will be finding out things about one another. One thing don't let your conversation revolve just one subject remember there are two people on the date.
5. Yes because only you know why you don't want to introduce them. It is only a date as I said you are not marrying this person. Then if time and fate intend for things to grow the best thing to do is inform the person as to this person or people and how you feel they can affect you or her or bother in a negative way then they can meet if it is a close relative.
6. Sure but keep in mind most women wont sit down for Football and most men wont sit down to watch little house on the prairie. See relationships would be so boring if everyone liked did and expected the same things. This is how some of use are introduced to new things and how we grow as humans.

Ps. it sounds like you will have a great time so dont worry, just be yourself and you will find someone for you that like you for who you are. Dont get me wrong you migth meet some bad and not so nice people along the way that might hurt you or make you lose faith in love but because of those people you might grow and learn and some times these people help us love and respect that person that is meant for us even more.

Answer 4

1. A guy should ask her if she likes a certain place to eat, just in case she hates a certain food or resuraunt. But really he should have a good idea where to go. On a first date you should pay !!!!! Don't listen to these women tell you to split the bill. Pay and don't pressure her for even a kiss.
2. I suppose that would be okay. Don't play games on your own though. Play two or three then be on your way.
3. 63,000 a year is okay. Alot of younger women don't care how much you make. They want to see ambition though.
4. Anime is weird on a first date, along with Dungens and Dragons. lol That is something you mention like before you get married! lol
Don't go into all your family probs on a first date. If she asks just say you closer to the other side of your family.
6. Hey if you sit through chick flicks you are in like flynn. Don't expect her to get Startrek though.

*** you seem like you would like Startrek.

Answer 5

BE YOURSELF. Don't worry so much about doing the perfect thing - if someone is going to love you they'll love you without you having to keep your heart under wraps.

1. Why not work together and figure out what you both like?
2. If you find arcades fun, why not? If you are deciding together where to go, then if he suggests something out of the question you can tell him and move on to the next idea. :)
3. Yup, that's fine. And it has nothing to do with love. Stop worrying. If the guy is going to be ashamed and look down on you (assuming you had a crumby job, which you don't), then he's not the kind of person you want influencing you. Don't worry about it.
4. I love Star Trek and I admit it to people once I know them enough to know they won't be a jerk and mock me. If you know the guy already and you're friends, he should be fine. Who knows? He might like it too. Animé's cool. (Well, some of it. :P)
5. If you want to go deeper with this guy you should probably meet them at least once. Knowing where he's come from can tell you a lot about someone.
6.Sure, why not? If you really hate something (like his favorite horror flick), he's not likely to force you to see it. And it's only fair to let him opt out if he REALLY hates one of your movies. But sure, watch movies together. It could be cool. :)

And, stop worrying so much about "doing" the right thing. Relax. The best couples were friends first. So go and be a friend. :)

Good luck!
~Mynta

Answer 6

1. If you asked her out, you should make the general plan but let her decide on the specifics. For example, if you decide on a dinner and a movie...ask her what movie should like to see and then what she would like to eat.

2. Yes...depending on what you mean by mess around lol

3. Certainly, you make more than the national average for a single person. But, a woman should not choose you based on your salary, so dont put that into the equation.

4. ok

5. yes, as long as you explain the reason why

6. yes

Answer 7

1) It depends. Sometimes girls like to be surprised or they like a guy who is in control. If you can think of something really interesting or fun, or something you know shes into just say "You'll see" when she asks where you're going. If you are unsure, you could ask for her suggestions.

2) How old are you? I think it depends on the age... if you are mid 20's-ish, she MAY find this immature. I would enjoy it, but I would stick to semi-traditional events for the first date such as Dinner (this could be fun, somewhere different... etc) I would enjoy something fun like this, but all girls are different.

3) Money, not important on the first date... and in a lot of cases at all. Do not act like you have lots of money, but do not be too "cheap".

4) Don't talk about Anime. Dont talk about Cartoons, Comics, Computer Games... etc. K.I.S.S. (keep it simple, stupid) until you know eachother, then you can start to bring out your true colors. (Unless of course she is into these things or she brings them up)

5) You dont have to talk about your family or introduce her to people on your Dads side if you dont want to. You can simply explain that you prefer to keep your Dad and his Family out of your life but you would LOVE to introduce her to your Mom, friends, so on...

6) Movies are fun, watching movies is fun... go for it.

Answer 8

1. Find something you both enjoy. But on either gender's side its always okay to surprise your date with something special.
2. Yes as long as she is having fun as well and not bored
3.Yes that is decent
4.Thats okay
5.To a certain extent. But if it becomes serious then she should be willing to deal and battle the asssholes by your side
6.GO for it

Answer 9

1. If you asked her out, then you select the place.
2. Depends on if you think she's into games
3. It's not how much you make, it's how responsible you are with it.
4. You can bring it up but if she doesn't respond with extreme interest, drop it.
5. I guess so.
6. Yes

Answer 10

the guy should invite the girl to a certain place. if she doesn't like that he should ask her where she wants to go and go there.

most girls don't like arcades. that sounds pretty immature to me for a guy who is out of college and working.

your salary is ok.

you don't have to worry about meeting the family until much later, unless you still live at home. if you live at home, you need to move out.

watching movies at someone's house comes later when there is more trust.
dates out in public or movies in a theatre comes first.