My son and daughter got suspended from school but I praised them for their actions, am I wrong or right?

Question

The school they go to are filled with bullies, people that terrorize children who just do not want confrontation or just lonely and considered outcasts. Both my kids are athletic and involved in sports and I've had them to martial arts classes. They recently got suspended from school from beating up some of the bullies that were harassing some of their friends and some of the "outcasts" of the school. I told the teachers that I was proud of them and did not punish my children. I told them what they did was the right thing and told them to continue if they should ever face anymore bullying again. Do you think what I did was right or wrong? Sometimes I feel the only way to deal with bullies is to just give them a taste of their own medicine. I will however make sure my children do not abuse this privilege and become bullies themselves which they have not.

I personally believe that non-confrontational approaches to solve bullying only makes it worse. It does nothing but bottle up more anger and frustration and may cause mental problems and provoke them to possibly do more unimaginable damage (school shootings) when it could've been stopped by simply beating up the bully. I do not teach my children to go out and pick fights...but I will however reward them for ending a vicious cycle that creates potential psychos and serial killers.

Answer 1

Children should try to go to an adult that is in charge before retaliating against a bully. If that doesn't work, then they should defend themselves. My child was having a problem with a bully at school and I told him to tell the teacher. He kept complaining to me about it even after going to the teacher. I told him to knock the s**t out of him next time and he would probably leave him alone. I told him to do this as a last resort, but he ended up having to do it. They both ended up getting paddlings at school, but my son said it was well worth it since the bully no longer bothers him.

Answer 2

Good job! My son got punished at school for beating up a boy that hit a girl. He had to stand at the wall for 5 minutes. The bully got suspended. My son saw the boy hit the girl and went after the boy. Telling him you don't hit girls. The teacher said she saw the whole thing and was proud of him. My boy is 6 and has played football for the last 2 years. He is a good kid Tell yours to keep up the good work.

Answer 3

in a way i think you may be wrong only because you say that the bullies were bullying other people and not your kids. and even though they do deserve a taste of their own medicine its not your kids responsibility to make sure that happens and why have them continue this when it is going to end up on their permanent record. is it worth it to have these damaging affects on their record. and has anyone tried going to these kids parents or anything cause if this hasn't happened then why are people complaining about it. there are other ways of dealing with this besides more violence. and has it been brought to the schools attention. maybe a group of parents should get together and go to the school and demand something be done about it or even go to the bullies parents. i am very against bullying, i was bullied all throughout school but i don't think two wrongs make a right. i believe your kids have the right to defend themsleves but themselves only. cause if your kids are doing it for them its not going to make it stop cause then the bullies are going to know that these other kids really can't handle themselves and are going to go after them even more. and it may look bad for the kids as well as they may be viewed as whimps and not being able to take care of theirselves.

Answer 4

I have no problem with what your kids did. The school, however, needs to step up and be responsible for creating an atmosphere where bullying isn't tolerated. If it were my kids, I would ask to see the written policy regarding bullying and then want to know specifically how it is enforced. My guess is there is a policy, but no enforcement.

Answer 5

School punishment should always be separate from home punishment. In other words, the school did what they thought was best, which you've obviously accepted. Great.

Now, when they get home, whether you ignore or reward is up to you, just as long as you don't pile-on the punishment. You made an appropriate choice.

Having said that, I think the school is right, that kids clobbering so-called bullies because they beat up OTHER kids (not your children) is an inappropriate choice.

Answer 6

you did the right thing. the strong should always watch out for the weak. i think a phone call to the school from a lawyer will put an end to the bullies. the school has a responsibility to ensure this type of stuff does not happen. why should your children do the job the school is suppose to do.
"WAY TO GO" my hats off to your kids.

Answer 7

I would have to say I wouldnt punish my child either in that situation. With the way things are now your kids need to know how to defend themselves and protect the others that cant. Its not like you are telling your children to go beat others up just because they can or for the fun of it... I say gooo kids and haha to the bullies.

Answer 8

Martial arts is a form of self defense, which should only be used if the bully strikes FIRST, in which case your kids would have had an excuse.

Answer 9

the guy that sat behind my step daughter in the bus would smash her and her bus mates heads together all the time. i asked the school to do something but they didn't so one day she turned around and smashed the kids face in the window than ran to the principals office. when the Principal suspended her i did not punish her either. i did change her school the next year though

Answer 10

I think your kids are just fine, and Bullies should get a feeling of "stop messing with people, you can and will get hurt" since schools don't really do anything about it..