My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. I'm 19 and he is 22. We have talked about marriage, and we plan on being together for a while, but for right now, we're just enjoying being young and getting our lives together.
I may or may not have children in the future, I think it's too early to decide, I would like to eventually, but I can't even fathom it right now
My boyfriend's mom has been buying various things for "our daughter" even though we aren't even living together or even engaged. She says she's had dreams about us having a daughter, and then when she is born she can have all of the things she is buying her.
What if we do have kids and then it's a boy??
My boyfriend told me she already bought us a wedding gift!!!
What can I do?
2007-12-07 07:33:29 · 7 answers · asked by marm212 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
someone has an addiction to shopping, and you guys are the excuse she needs to do it. Her house is probably overloaded with stuff, can't hardly walk anywhere - she has OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Don't let this be a hint for you two - this is her problem, not yours!
2007-12-07 07:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Empress Jan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for no longer residing jointly. I want everybody had the sense you have. besides, so a approaches as no longer understanding whether or no longer you like young ones, you will desire to the two agree on whether or to no longer have young ones till now you get engaged. Now on your question, you probable can no longer do something. Your boyfriend needs to be a guy and tell his mom to stop dashing issues. Pay close interest to whether he stands as much as his mom whilst mandatory. If he does, super. If no longer, he's a mama's boy. i'm happy you're waiting to get married. jointly as relationship 3 years isn't dashing, getting married at your age is, and meaning your probabilities of divorce would be approximately ninety 9%. So kudos to the two considered one of you for waiting till you're a splash older.
2016-11-14 00:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect that she is a whack job, but one that thinks you would be the best daughter-in-law. Many of the questions are about how MILs and DILs don't get along. If you are really uncomfortable with the "subtle" hints it should be your boyfriend who confronts his mother.
2007-12-07 07:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by BIRDY85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with his mom and tell her honestly that you and your bf are not ready for marriage yet. Tell her that you think its a little to early to be buying presents and would appreciate it if she would stop. If she doesn't well its her money and if wants to buy all these things, let her.
2007-12-07 08:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap her silly and tell her you are only 19. Then ask her would she be pushing her 19 yr old daughter to get married and have kids. She is CRAZY!
2007-12-07 07:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by cocobee799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id quit freaking out , no one can tell you who or when to marry , its your decision. just be happy his mom likes you and is willing to accept you into her family . just love her for her weirdness lol and take your time with your bf.
2007-12-07 07:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ஐDanielleஐ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be prepared for when and if you do marry and have kids. she like to but in to hother's lives. especially her son's. she'll be a meddling mother in law for sure.
2007-12-07 08:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋