There's this new guy at my school, we became friends and he asked me out tonight. We went to have a drink and we made out. I'm starting to like him, and I think he likes me too. He wants us to go out tomorrow again but I'm going to cancel so I don't seem that eager.
Anyway, the thing is that I got dumped in the past 3 relationships I was in for different reasons. The first guy didn't love me enough, the second made out with another girl and the last guy dumped me for his ex. I am so scared to fall in love again and start dating because I don't want to get dumped.
I'm willing to give this guy a chance I just want us to go slowly, but I don't know how.
Any advice would be useful on how to make sure he likes me but I'm still scared of getting dumped...
2007-12-07 07:31:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about getting dumped I know it hurts but the hurt will go away and you'll be stronger for it. Advice, just be yourself if he doesn't like you for you then you don't need him.
2007-12-07 07:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by 420 4' LIFE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making out on the first date and want to go slow??? Maybe try keeping your clothes on for a couple of months for starters.
Seriously, get to know the guy before you fall in love...and that takes awhile. Once you fall in love with someone is time enough to begin thinking about getting intimate.
I'm not surprised he wants to go out again so soon....he figures he'll get lucky again!
Another thing you need to learn is that most relationships don't work out....until you find the right person. And sometimes you have to go through a lot of people to do that. Just look at each relationship as one step closer to the right person, and try to learn something positive from each one.
2007-12-07 07:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sally G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You all seemed to have a good time the other night . Why are you going to cancel on this guy for a second time . For me personally if you cancelled on the second date i would assume the first one didn't well and cut my losses . This guy might be alot better then the last 3 or 4 . I would give it a chance and forget the past.
Like they say " You have to forget the past before you can move on "
2007-12-07 07:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear of being rejected is at the heart of a lot of relationship problems today. But there's a quote I really like that is pretty true to reality I think.
"You can only love as much as you are willing to risk being hurt."
It is possible that this guy could screw you over like the last guys (I'm sorry about that by the way :(), but do you want to miss out on a opportunity simply because you're scared?
Also, take things slowly. Talk a lot, but don't reveal everything about yourself, or ask him to do so too fast. Allow the relationship to evolve over TIME. Don't allow the excitement of emotion to push you forward too quickly.
Good luck!
2007-12-07 07:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this question. It's all about the negatives, and nothing about the positives. It is so much fun to meet new people! Why not just sit back and take it one date at a time? Go out tonight (if he was worried about being desperate he wouldn't have asked you out), enjoy yourself, have some kisses, and then go about your life until he calls again. There are so many scenarios you can convince yourself that will happen, but have you thought about the one where he falls for you and you stay together? That is just as likely as the ones you listed above. Good Luck and stay positive!!!!
2007-12-07 07:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt cancel the second date, because then hes going to think that your not interested or that the first date was a flop. I would just be honest with him and tell him you like him but dont want to rush into anything. if hes a good guy he'll understand.
2007-12-07 07:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do cancel, then tell him why. Make sure he knows you want to go slow because of your past relationships and he'll understand. If you cancel without giving him a reason, he may take it the wrong way and get offended. Good luck!
2007-12-07 07:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give this a chance.
he's not those guys.
we all experience rejection some time in some way.
none of us like it.
it's not what happens to you, it's what you do about it.
if you choose to let your past hold you back, you're the one causing damage.
causing damage to yourself and someone who could be something really good for you.
don't get stuck in the past and don't let it hold you back.
give him a chance.
forget the past.
stop looking back and start looking forward.
I hope this helps!
2007-12-07 07:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, if you really want to make this work, you have to talk to him, explain that you have had some bad relationships in the past and you want to go slow, if he really does like you, he'll agree, if not, he isnt worth your time
i hope everything works out!
2007-12-07 07:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bosquet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel, and that you want to take it slower, and why. If you fell like cancelling on your date with him, mabye just rescheudeling it would go better with him.
2007-12-07 07:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋