I love being with my boyfriend all the time. We've been together 3 yrs on Nov. 19. It seems as though we always do the same thing. Eat at the same restaurants watch movies every other night. We'll go out occasionally to somewhere new but that's rare. I would like to be surprised from time to time with a rose or a letter he left for me but I don't want to tell him to do it because that defeats the purpose. How do i hint that I like small romantic gestures? He makes more money than me and I think he believes that buying my grand gifts for birthday/christmas will make me happy.
I could care less about the big gifts. I would just like to have a surprise romantic gesture that doesn't cost anything.
What do I do?
2007-12-07 06:55:29 · 5 answers · asked by jcb2387 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you want to be spontaneous. Then get ready to be disappointed. The majority of men don't think this way.
Find romance in the little things he does. I'll give you an example. My husband is pretty bad with any type of gift giving- even little romantic things, and it can be disappointing. However, the other night, a commercial for a movie came on, and the announcer said that the movie was about "the greatest love story ever told"- and my husband said "Baby! They made a movie about us!" That little comment was better than a dozen roses to me.
Take the romance where you find it. Love him for who he is, not who you want to make him to be.
2007-12-07 07:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let it be, he probably thinks he is doing enough, u cant force ppl to do this & that, you cant have high expectations, maybe he belives just by being there with u is enough, isnt it? its like your getting selfish, there are ppl in the world who have been together for long time & are happy with eachother & who struggle to make ends meat, basically struggle in life but still they have faith, stay together, you should not expect too much, the more we get the more greedy we get & the more chance we end up alone, you dont wanan go that route, he aint cheated? he aint abused u? he aint disrespect u? so whats the problem, trust me you dont wanna keep hinting for more, otherwise it might just look u are the one with the PROBLEM, there are girls out there who dont care if their man buys them this or that or gives them a rose etc but as long they are there for them, then girls have self-respect, are open minded, caring, kind, not selfish & stuck up, these girls always end up alone & as i said no matter how small the worry is you dont wanna go that route, Peace.
2007-12-07 07:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Seattler 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell me him straight that it seems u always do the same things. tell him want to do things different, that lately it has been boring. sometimes, guys have no idea or clue what girls want. that makes them confused and frustrated. guys cant read our minds and they are not psychics so sometimes u have to speak up and tell them what u want.
2007-12-07 07:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno a person who used to have the same problem. what she did was started doing for him what she wanted done for her. other then that i would say just make little comments. say your co worker got flowers at work today or something. it doesnt have to be true....little white lies dont matter if its for the good. lol
2007-12-07 07:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him; it would be a shame to hurt a relationship by not placing value on being open and honest.
2007-12-07 07:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by xwdguy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋