My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. We are living together, things were going well until last week he decided he wanted space but did not want to break-up. He made it pretty clear that it wasn't me it was him and that he has to better himself so that he can one day give me the things I want. He is 36 and I am 27. Can anyone tell me what exactly he means by this? And what is a good way to make this work? He still wants to see me and talk to me but not live together for right now.
I just took a suitcase and left - everything else is still at the house.
He is very stressed about work, bills and money
He is the one that calls me and says he misses me and loves me
And swears to GOD he doesnt want to date anyone else.
Should I give into him wanting to see me? Or should I just say you wanted space and seeing me isn't giving you your space?
And let him figure it out with out me around?
I am so confused someone help me!?!?!?!?! PLEASE! =0(
2007-12-07 06:41:29 · 18 answers · asked by cutie11134 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would definitely give him his bullshit space for a while. and if he still wants it after not getting laid for a week, id call him a puss in boots because "men" dont ask for space, or a "break" stupid metrosexuals i swear. tell him to stop being a lil fagbag and be a man and man up to your woman. cause u are everything to him and he needs to appreciate you and acknowledge ur feelings. he doesnt want anyone else but with this newfound space he will feel like its okayy if it comes down to it and thats just being a dog.
am i wrong or not.
2007-12-07 06:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by FukcingAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his space. If you've only been together for six months and are already living together, it's possible that he feels you both rushed into it. Things are great for the first six months of every relationship, but once you start to know each other better, sometimes you realize that it may not be what you want.
Get the rest of your things and move out permanently, at least for now. It seems like he feels he moved too fast and wants to slow down a little.
2007-12-07 06:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just needs to figure some things out in his life and he needs to do it on his own. Give him some space and see where it goes.
2007-12-07 06:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is confused about your relationship and needs space to figure out what he wants. He may have doubts about the relationship or he may just be getting scared that he is falling hard for you. All you can do is give him his space and let him work it out. But be careful, he may care about you and still like you, but it might also be his way of hanging onto you just in case, because he doesn't want anyone else to have you! Only you will know this.
If you think he is worth it and a good person, give him space. If you also have doubts, perhaps this will give you the chance to figure out you want from the relationship also!
Good luck. :)
2007-12-07 06:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could use some space to.
2007-12-07 06:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor his request to give him living space. See him on "dates"... no sex... no long drawn-out conversations...just dinner or a movie. Once a week. Give it two months. Then, if you still feel that it's worth another chance...have the long conversations. You may find that you are more than ready to give him space.! Good luck! (p.s. Get your personal stuff out of there!)
2007-12-07 06:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...first of all everyone needs their space. I just told my boyfriend of 6 months that I didnt want to live with him anymore...but I still love him and want to be with him. Its just that I need a place to call my own. and sometimes being around soemone 24/7 can be stressful. Just because he want to live seperatly does not mean he wants to end the relationship. Im sure if he didnt want to date you anymore he would tell you...lighten up and dont be so dramatic
2007-12-07 06:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him have his space. If it is meant to be then it will all work out! Good luck.
2007-12-07 06:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sheree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first problem is that you have only been with him 6 months and already living together.if he wants his space,let him have it.dont answer his calls,dont have anything to do with him.if it was meant to be,he will be back for you.
2007-12-07 06:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by brenda w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to pull the strings here...don't let him.
If he wants space, give him space and don't go running to see him when he asks. This is his way of having his cake and eating it too. In my opinion, you rushed into living together and now it's suffering the consequences. Take some time away and don't let him sucker you into getting together only to pull the "I need space" line a few days later.
2007-12-07 06:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋