How do I develop an interpersonal relationship with God?

Question

I am 23 years old, a mother of two, and wife of a wonderful deployed Army soldier. My question is how to develop an interpersonal relationship with God. I need him in my life so badly and for years I've been battling with myself on trying to live right then falling back into the trap of living wrong. I try to sincerely pray to God but I wonder if I'm being sincere enough. I really want to change my life for the better and raise my kids and teach them about God, but I don't even know the direction of where my life is taking me. It's like I'm in a blank state of mind sometimes and I don't know what to do next. I'm tired of being this way so can someone please offer me some words of advice or encouragement that will help. I've even subscribe with televangelist websites but you always have to "pay"for an answer with them. So please help me. Thank you so much!

Answer 1

You already have love.


Psalm 118:5 I called upon the LORD in distress: the LORD answered me, and set me in a large place.

Pray, and all will be well. Study His word and you will know him. Go to church, because he definitely didn't intend for us to be alone. They will help you. And good luck. ^_^

Answer 2

I am a Colonel in the Indian army, my eldest daughter is about your age. For a 23 year old mother of two with a husband in the army, you have every reason to want to connect with God. All you need to do is what you're already doing -love your kids and your husband and they'll thank God for YOU.
I don't know what rank your husband holds, but if there is a possibilty of you helping wives and families of army personel under his command, you will be surprised with the solace it brings.
We, Indians, greet each other with folded hands and say "Namaste" which means "I bow to the God within you" The benign,positive part of you is God, and the nasty part is 'you know who'.
Since you really want an interpersonal relationship with God, I have good reason to believe that you are ready to ooze goodness to everyone around. My wife does that, she's already changed the lives so many of our war widows that they think SHE'S GOD....I for one am convinced that she is.
I'm married to God ! How's that for an interpersonal relationship?

Answer 3

I hope you have enough faith in God to not listen to the negative advice you've received so far. Only those who accept Jesus can truly understand him so pay them no mind.
To answer your question, you don't have to do anything special. Just believe and talk to God like you talk to your friends when you need advice. God knows you desire a relationship with Him and all He requires you to do is believe His word. You won't have a full transformation overnight so be thankful for the little changes that happen daily. Remember when you used to curse someone out and feel good about it and now you may still do it, but you feel bad about it! Eventually you won't have the desire to do it at all. (I don't know if that's true of you. I'm just giving and example.) Study the bible, don't just read it. Find a church or a group of believers that can answer your specific questions about the Bible. I would love to stay in touch with you. Email me [e-mail]. I listed some websites that are a big help to me when I have questions.
Also, I agree with you about the tv preachers that want you to pay to hear the end of a sermon. If a preacher is doing God work, he will tell you the whole message for free and if you want to pay for a copy for later, that's fine. But to have to pay to hear it initially is not God's will!

Answer 4

First of all, if you pray to God and truly mean what you say to Him, you are being sincere. There is no such thing as not being sincere enough. Either you are or you're not.

To develop a closer relationship with God, talk to Him more. Next, actually wait to hear what He has to say as well. You may not get the answer you wanted to hear, the way you wanted to receive it, or in the amount of time that you expected it to take, but wait on Him. The more you talk with Him, the more familiar you will become with what He has planned for your life. Your sense of feeling lost is because you are lacking His direction. Ask God to reveal Himself to you like never before. Pray for an increase in appetite for the Word. As you learn, teach your kids. Begin a daily routine of reading the bible to them and discuss what has been read. If your kids are young, start with bible stories. They're easier to understand and follow than many of the other scriptures. Your walk in faith may begin as a crawl, but dedication will have you walking and leaping before you know it. God bless you and your family.

Answer 5

You are well on your way. You have accepted Christ. Next, you must seek Him..read His word and any commentary about Him that you can find...Joyce Meyer's "Battlefield of the Mind" is a very good book. There are many out there but this one is the one I really understood as a young Christian. Pray everyday...read and study...put Him first in your life. He loves you. I would avoid many of the televangelist websites. You never know if they are sincere and money cannot buy salvation. Do not let any pastor or evangalist tell you otherwise. Ask God to lead you to a good "Spirit filled" church in your area. Do not worry about giving money or anything like that at first...just seek the knowledge of God. And God will reveal Himself to you. I have prayed for you and am expecting a mighty outpouring of His Holy Spirit into your life. God Bless and Merry Christmas!!!

Answer 6

First you must have a relationship with Jesus. That means you must realize that you are a sinner and cannot do anything within yourself worthy of his forgiveness and love so you must call out to Him in faith asking Him to forgive and save you. If you do that really believing He can and will then you are saved. THEN the growing process begins. Like a new born baby you need to be fed so you can grow. The Bible is full of milk and meat. The milk teaches the baby and the meat teaches the growing Christian. You need to spend time talking to Him and reading His word. You also need to be a part of a local church where the truth of God's word is being preached and taught. You need good Christian friends to help encourage you. We need the fellowship of other Christians. Once a person is saved, redeemed, born-again, however you want to say it, then the Holy Spirit of God resides in that person's spirit. The Holy Spirit is there as a witness of the reality of your realtionshijp with God and He teaches you what God has said in His word. He guides you towarfd newness of life. He empowers you to become Christ-like. That all happens as you allow God to lead you after you have trusted Christ for salvation.

Answer 7

Mrs. Jaliyah,
The wonderful thing about God is that your inerpersonal relationship with him is all about you knowing his word! I myself am a single mother, but one thing that I've learned in my salvation is that it's not about you or me or anyone else it's much bigger than us. God is a soul winner and we are to be open to him and be used as vessels for Christ. When we get saved we think o.k. I'm safe, but salvation is much bigger than confessing your sins we then need to get revelation of his word, because there are principles that we should apply that comes with fervor (favor), wisdom, knowledge, and blessings. Just like the 1st time you heard you babies say momma, God wants to hear his children say his words. So study to build your relationship with God - he gives us a Holy Spirit, he's for us so ask him to help you and rightly divide the word of God. After you begin to get revelation, then begin your application process and apply this knowledge that you're getting in all aspects of your life then you will see harvest - the manifestaion of things. Just remember that as long as you surrender all to him he'll give you stewartship over things in your life. Your children, your finances, your job, etc. because nothing belongs to us anyway! Just take care of these things, because when he sees that you are taking care of the little things then he will bless you with greater things. I am a living wittness, as my relationship with him was taken serious by me than God took me out of a job that nobody wanted and put me in a job that everybody wanted. I stopped robbing God and started being a better stewart of my blessings and started paying my tithes, and sewing seeds, and I am always thankful for everything! Some say new level new devil I say satan gets no glory from me! It's never easy, but the more you know and learn God's word the more you have something to stand on when you're being attacked. God Bless you and your family!

Answer 8

THIS IS THE best question I've read here so far.
Talk to God ,in your own words, like you would a best friend.
Your husband maybe.
Let Him know the condition of your heart and your desire to
have a right relationship with Him.
Repent and ask him to send you The Comforter.
You will find Him ,I know it.
God Bless you and keep you!!!

Answer 9

You poor thing!

You develop and maintain a close, personal relationship with God by keeping in touch with him...just like you would any other friend you wanted a close, personal relationship with.

You keep in touch through prayer. If you can't frame your thoughts to pray formally, just talk to Him. He just wants you to stay in contact.

You build your faith through prayer, by reading the word, by listening to strengthening and encouraging music, by reading Biblically-sound books, watching Biblically-sound teachings, and going to church (Bible based).

The thing is, so often once we have a self-help (or god-helps) idea, we tend to overwhelm ourselves trying to do a lot. Take it slow. Read few verses in the Bible at regular intervals, get a CD or two that you like and play those, and get a devotional (the one or two page format is just right, not too much, and not too little). And pray. Not just at a specific time of day, but whenever you have something to say to him. (Dear Lord, thank you for my babies, but do children HAVE to be this noisy?, etc.)

I have a few more things to add, but I have to run. If you haven't closed this question by th time I get back, I will continue. Otherwise, just send me a note.

If you have any further questions at any time, please feel free to email me.

Hope I helped. God bless you. You are going to be fine.

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flower: that is lovely!

Answer 10

There a bibles out there for little children to read. Concentrate on living a clean live and try not to do wrong to yourself or anybody else. Meditate and find your inner self. You know right from wrong and you have two voices inside of you, a good voice and a bad voice. Just starve the bad voice and it will die. Don't pay for religion, because they get rich off you. It's a scam.
Merry Christmas

Answer 11

The only way is by spending time with Him. Nothing else. We Christians , like every other person in this world, are NOT perfect.
We will continue to make mistakes. But it is the relationship, of spending quiet time to talk to Him and seeking his voice, and His face , is what brings us closer to Him.

Dont push, and dont compare yourself to other Christians. God deals with us differently, as we are al different.

Go into your bedroom, shut the door. Sit beside your bed or wherever, take a deep breath and release very slowly, and say Here I am Jesus, can you please help me to talk to You, I want to know you better.