How much do looks matter?

Question

I don't want to bore people with the simple question does it matter because of course it matters, but my question is, if a guy or girl was really nice person, you really thought they were great to chat to, they were intelligent, fun, friendly, made you feel good, just how much does looks matter for this person to make you want to be more than friends? Do they have to look perfect, can they have the odd flaw and you still like them very much?

I was talking to a friend today and he said to me that I am over complicating how easy it is to get dates, he says that too many people are hung up on having to look a certain way to get a date and believing they have no chance with certain men/women, but he said in reality looks don't really matter, of course you cannot look like a slob or if you look terrible its a problem, but if you are 85% of the population and look normal then you should believe you are good enough to date anyone by letting your personality shine.

Do you agree?

Answer 1

yeah i agree

obviously looks matter....ppl are dumb if they say they dont....but you shouldnt let them be the foremost......if you get to know someone and love them then you will often find that they look even better through your "love tinted glasses"

just get to know people and be yourself...its good advice to just let your personality shine because personally I am attracted to personality more than looks. Yeah I will look at a hot guy but thats all, if he has a good personality then suddenly I want to pay attention to him.

hope that helps

Answer 2

There has to be sexual chemistry and physical attraction. Has to. I would not have a sexual relationship with someone I find repulsive, no matter how fun they are or how great of a personality they have.

That said, not everyone is attracted to the same type of people. People are putting too much emphasis on looking like society wants them to (skinny, celebrity-gorgeous), and honestly, that's not attractive. If you have confidence in yourself, that will boost your appearance without you having to do anything.

I, personally, am attracted to heavy guys; I don't like them when they're skinny or average, I want them with some meat on them. If every guy out there said, "Man, I'm a little chubby, no girl will ever want me", there is at least one woman out there who would, and I'd venture a guess that there are more. Yes, there are some arrogant people out there who refuse to date people over a certain weight, but attraction isn't based solely on physical appearance. Your friend is correct to an extent.

Answer 3

Of course looks matter a little. Who wants to be with a person that they are not physically attracted to at all. I don't know but when I was reading your question I thought about beauty and the beast. You can't choose who you love. I think that people need to stop looking at the physical and start looking at the whole person and then will would not have so many divorces.

Answer 4

For me they don't matter that much. Obviously I am attracted to people's looks at first, but if they aren't what I'm looking for personality-wise, I lose interest in them.
I would go out with someone even if they weren't very good looking, as long as I like them, looks don't matter to me.
Your personality can be sexy! Women are attracted to different things - some women may find a guy irresistable while others may not have any attraction towards them.

Answer 5

I love to date guys that are really cute, but have one odd flaw that makes them unique and even cuter! But yeah I think if you don't look like a slob or whatever, and you have a good personality, then that's all that really matters. But you might have to get to know someone first before they can tell you have a good personality..

Answer 6

Of course it matters, anyone who says otherwise is lying. You take the most down to earth person, says all the right things, does the right things, makes you feel good, but is unattractive, hmmm would you still date him/her? 99% says no. Thats just how it is. Sadly society is geared towards looking a certain way to be noticed. So people are mor attractive than others, so you will be noticed by more.

To me looks matter, but not 100% I've had the cute girls, then I've had the really beautiful girls. To be honest, both ended up to be crazy =D. For everyone its different. What you may think is a 10 another person may think she/he is a 7.

Answer 7

i agree. to an extent i think looks somewhat matter. it's still nice to be sexually attracted to the person but they don't have to look like brad pitt or anything for you to be attracted to them. plus, the personality is what really makes the person. a person with a great personality is going to be 10 times more good looking to you than a good looking person with a bad personality. i don't try to be anything i'm not so when i was single, i didn't wear make up because i wanted to attract a guy who liked me for me, not how i looked on the outside. i found that guy and we have been together for over 2 years. looks are only important to shallow people.

Answer 8

Depends if you have brown rotten teeth that you have never brushes in 2 months or greasy messy hair that you couldnt be bothered to wash in 2 months.So yeah looks matter.Being fat doesnt matter,being ugly doesnt matter.Its how you present yourself.If you look like a stinky tramp nobody will want you.If you look clean and smart and make an effort to look good in the way you dress and hygiene then you cant go wrong.

Answer 9

depends.. look at it this way.. you get a very nicely wrapped xmas or birthday present.. the present itself is absolute rubbish.

same with people.. you can be the nicest looking person in the universe but if your devoid of a nice personality that is bad..

of course a person needs to be attracted to someone else, but that's only part of it.. as you get older looks fade..

if your a good person and you chill out , others warm to you .

Answer 10

Personality rocks