My 11 month old daughter will not go to sleep at night?

Question

she was waking up at 8am and going to bed at 11pm . taking a nap around 11am and 6pm and then she would not go to sleep until 11 or 12. now she is waking up at 10am taking a nap around 1pm and then still does not want to sleep. Her naps are between 1 and 3 hours. I am having to hold her and pat her on the butt to go to sleep. she throws a tantrum when i lay her down not just to go to sleep but to change diaper. When do 11 months old usually go to sleep and how to get her to go to sleep at like 9pm and stay asleep.

Answer 1

she should be in bed by 7.30 pm at the latest. My twins used to have two naps and my health visitor told me if it started to affesct the night routine then l would have to cut one out.Sounds to me like she doesn't want naps any more. Don't be pressured into her having one because "its the norm" every child is different. It will be exhausting for you with no day nap ,l did it with twins but trust me that peace and quiet from 7.30 onwards is worth every minute. Take her swimming or to the park join a mother and baby group anything to fill her day so that she will sleep like a baby at night.To get her to go to sleep at night will take a lot of patience but is worth it. try the pick up put down method. Put her down at 7.30 she needs to learn to fall herself she has got used to you patting her to drop off,if she starts crying go in settle her back down and leave . You will have to keep doing this untill she falls asleep. It may take up to 60 trys but it does work, its short term work for long term results. My twins are 3 and a half and since they were 5 months they have gone down at 7.30 and woke up between 7.30 and 9.00 am because l did this method. Good luckand all the best xx

Answer 2

My nephew wakes at 7am and naps at 12:30pm until about 2:30pm then he is in bed by 8:30pm. He took some time going through the tantrums about two weeks that could almost make a mother quit but after he understood what was going on and the changes around him, he was fine!!! He started this at 10months old and is now 15 months old..... he eats breakfast everyday at 7:45-8am and lunch at 12pm and dinner at 7pm Bath is at 6pm every night. My sister never wanted to be on a 'schedule' but it seems that the baby did and with a baby, it has to be happy or no one is happy!!! But through the transitions, you have to be relaxed and know to keep up the schedule that works for you no matter how hard it gets, after baby understands, things will become much easier!!! There are no more tantrums or fussing from my mephew and it only too about two weeks for him to understand.

About the changing diapers and crying; most babys do this.... I don't know if I would call it normal or not because the baby is crying but all babys go through it.... Try changing your baby in the same place every time you change the diapers. Famuliarity is essentual. So baby knows what is going to happen in that spot. Also, if you change the diapers in the baby's bedroom, maybe the baby thinks you are trying to put her bed. If you do change diapers in the bedroom try changing the diaper in corner of the room farthest from the bed. This way she won't think you are trying to put her down.

If your baby wants to go to bed with a bottle (which can be bad for their teeth, because the milk resting on their gums) try water. When I babysit, this always works. Just a comfort of the bottle (or sippy cup)

But I would say find a schedule that will work for your baby and for you. make it a set schedule and make it happen. There has to be a plan!!!

Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Hmm, that sounds like a tricky one! Are you sure she's eating enough during the day? Maybe if you up her calorie intake, she'll sleep through better. Also, sometimes cluster feeding before bed can help - getting her to eat as much as possible right before you put her down. It could also be that she's starting to not need as much sleep during the day. At about that age, my daughter had a regular 2 hour nap at midday. Some babies need less sleep than others. Also, it could be a routine thing. Perhaps if you try giving her the regular nap time, regular dinner time, regular bedtime, you might find that she responds well to that. She will come to understand that there is a set time for each thing that you do. When she wakes up at night time, do you try other things to settle her? Maybe she wakes, really just wanting attention, but you fulfill that need with a bottle? Perhaps, if you try placing the pacifier back in, and patting her/rocking her to sleep, you might be able to start slowly eliminating bottles. I don't agree with what your doctor said about crying it out. It's known as the Feberization method, and there has been a lot of contraversy about this. It promotes a sense of insecurity in babies - and they think that their parents aren't going to help them when they're upset. Good luck, and I hope you get some sleep soon! :D

Answer 4

Its that 6 pm nap that's getting you into trouble. Also is there noise going on during the second nap or from 8 to 11 ?. Take her out in to the air at about 5 pm. The optimum word is AIR . I dont know what it does to babies and old people, but it knocks them out. Keep her out for maybe two hours. It doesnt necessarily have to be in the car it can be in front of the door. I cant say that I remember my two when they were that age cause I was so overworked and just kept going and meeting whatever need there was. You might also want to look at what she's eating too. Make sure the house id quiet.

Answer 5

I babysit a 2 and a half year old. His parents had him on a wonderful schedule. He would go to be a 8:30 and get up at 7:30. Then he would take his nap in the afternoon at 1:00 pm, sleep 2 to 3 hours and then go back to bed at 8:30. This scheduled worked good, because we did not have to worry about him not getting his sleep, but we had no trouble getting him to bed either. I would only give your daugher one nap a day and definitely not at 6 at night. Give her one in the afternoon and she should be good until bedtime at night.

Answer 6

Put her to bed at 9 every night, don't let her sleep so late and cut out one of the naps! It will take a few days to get her back on a schedule. Do you talk to her when you change her? Make it fun for her, give her a toy to hold while you change her and talk to her while you do it. Like, are you stinky? Let's see if you're stinky. No, just wet, well let's get that off you! Pinch her little butt and tickle her, make it a fun thing to do.

Answer 7

You are going to have to keep the baby up, without naps for about two days during the day time. She will be looking for her evening sleep. However, she needs as much rest as you are giving her so once she get the idea that the night time is sleep time she will go to sleep. Its a process of changing her schedule she has made for herself. When she is down at night there must be silence and less light as possible. It will be hard trying to keep her up during the times when she usually sleep, so try to make things interesting and play games, talks, books, etc.

Answer 8

Let her cry, put her in the crib and let her cry, do not go in no matter what unless she has hurt herself. after 3 nights of this, she will get that it is bed time. Do not turn on the over head light, if you do go in. She is doing this cuz you allow it, so don't allow it, you are going to have to not go in, let her cry, if after 30 min. she is still crying, then go in and sing to her, make sure she's ok, but DO NOT pick her up out of that crib, or you may as well start from scratch. Do all this by first singing her a couple songs, then in the crib. 3 nights, and she will sleep. It's hard, feels mean, but it's not. Same actions if she wakes up in the middle of night. She isn't going to like this especially the first night, so really make sure her crib is safe and nothing in reach that she can hurt herself. Again, it's going to be harder on you, trust me, I know from experience. i cried myself, but I stuck to it, and 3 nights later, my life was a bit easier and it became a joyful time, singing to her, and putting her in her crib. Make sure there is a night light though, you don't wan it pitch black in there.

Answer 9

You're just going to have to gut it out and let her throw her tantrums. Getting her to bed at a set and reasonable time is the best thing, both for her and for you. Let her cry it out for a while. If she continues to cry, go to her and talk to her, tell her it's bedtime, but don't pick her up. It will work, just give it time

Answer 10

it is the hardest battle to fight but cut out one nap and at bedtime put her in her crib and let her cry herself to sleep a couple nights and she will get the idea and the fighting will stop.