I find it difficult approaching and having anything interesting to say to women when I'm out. Is there anything to help guys like me who fumble with what to say?
I'm looking for specific anecdotes, dos and don'ts, etc. Since my male role models were often not the best people to get this advice from.
2007-12-07 05:46:05 · 6 answers · asked by mundawgs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So do you have similar problems when you talk to guys? If you are relaxed with other men...you'll be pleased to know that women aren't much different. We're interested in most of the same things that men are and the fun part is that we tend to see things a bit differently... but the subjects are the same! Talking about the other person's interests and listening to what they say is always a good way to make friends. If there's music playing...just commenting on the artist can start a conversation...it doesn't have to be fancy..."What do you think of....?" is always a good start.Stay away from talking about other people and your feelings about them; it could be her cousin you are dissing! Getting another person to talk about their interests is not very hard...and you can relax... this is just the very tiny first part of getting to know someone...and it gets easier! Good luck! Merry Christmas! Hugs, Gina C.
2007-12-07 06:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you really need is one witty thing to say in order to break the ice and the rest should just flow naturally.
(I know, easier said that done). If you can approach her in a unique way, she will be more apt to engage in a convo with you. Don't use pick up lines, don't give her a superficial compliment (like talking about her eyes, her breasts or her bottom). You could talk about something random (but not TOO random) and see where things go.
The best time to approach her is when she has 1/3 of her drink or less. Then you can offer to buy her one. ;-) That's always a smooth move...ladies hardly ever turn down a free drink.
Just be yourself. Do more listening than talking and ask open-ended questions.
Good luck!
2007-12-07 13:56:32 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and never use "specific anecdotes" or lines of any type. They always come off over prepared and pathetic. If you think something is funny then laugh. If you don't think it is funny, don't laugh and share your opinion.
2007-12-07 13:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by satacelda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to realized that women are humans just as men. Just talk to girls with an ease. do not be over cocky with them. Make jokes that will make them laugh. Girls love guys that make them laugh. Just don't give up a chat, calm down and relax. Try not to talk too fast, talk with convinced and ease.
2007-12-07 13:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mike L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just use small talk a first. eventualy she will give clues as to what her sense of humor is like and what her story is. and by that time its easy.
jsut remember that she, like you is a human being and no more special than you or anyone else. see her as a person with flaws instead of a beautiful woman that you think of as falwless. it realy helps
2007-12-07 13:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i'm totally like that to! i can approach a girl and ask them out but i don't hav anything interesting to say to them! i'm definately gonna wanna see the answers to this!
2007-12-07 13:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by "The Guru" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋