Anything from asking for money for bills, asking for help with christmas, food, daycare, etc...
ANYTHING When does it GOT TO FAR???
2007-12-07 05:18:02 · 13 answers · asked by liza j 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When the person doing the giving is fed up.
The person doing the asking should know when he's becoming a leach.
2007-12-07 05:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If a person is asking for help because they can not do it themselves it is a necessity. The younger a person is, the more help they need. The goal of a parent should be to raise children who are capable of fending for themselves.
If a person does not have the discipline to live within their means and they are asking for material goods or money so they can have a higher standard of living than their income, then it is too much. They are a parasite to those around them. Is it a want or a need. A person should ask for help when they need it. Asking for help because they do not want to make the effort to do what it takes is bad behavior.
If help is volunteered, the person who volunteered should take some of the responsibility or credit. Giving money to someone so they can by a video game and play all day is doing more damage than having them earn money to buy the game on their own.
The first time you have to eat beans for a week because you loaned money to a friend so he could pay rent, and then you find out he was buying drinks for his buddies at the local bar while you are starving yourself, you realize that he was not near as good a friend to you, as you were to him.
2007-12-07 13:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you ask for help that they don't need i.e. laziness, when you don't appreciate it, when you ask someone for something that they clearly can't afford to spare (be it time or money) and pressure them to give in. Asking someone for anything substantial if you know you wouldn't give back something of relative worth (not the same thing or the same amount but relative to your situation). Asking for help isn't a bad thing and sometimes it's OK to ask for big things and lots of things but you've got to remember that everything you ask for puts a strain on your relationship and it will soon lead to resentment. The helper resents the asker if they give too much, if they stop giving the asker will resent the helper (often). It all depends.
2007-12-07 13:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It goes too far when you don't think about all of your options first. IE if it is for money and you have money in your savings or another account. But if you don't try to do it yourself first or exhaust your own resources first, THEN it is too far. But when you ask your parents every month to pay your rent or buy you gas or whatever and you go and blow your money on things that you really don't need, then I would really think you went way too far.
2007-12-07 19:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by JP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can go to far if you are always the one asking. IF you have a relationship with give and take then it is ok to ask. I feel guilty when I realize that I have asked for simple things or money over and over and they have never asked for anything.
2007-12-07 14:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you discover (or are told by others) that you are looking for help before/ without trying to solve the problem yourself.
No, a PT job @ McDonalds does not pay the bills... but what job that does will hire a person who's work record shows he/she is unwilling to work for the last few months/years?
Yes it is difficult to take care of kids today... but when your child grows seeing a parent making great effort to provide is an awesome motivator for your child.
2007-12-07 13:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by anerasescovedo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you do it repeatably and don't even attempt to find a way to help yourself first before asking for help, when it gets to the point you are depending on others and not yourself, when you don't bother doing anything in return for that person, not even just to thank then in some kind of way.
2007-12-07 13:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by ARTY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong about asking for help. We all need help at one point or another. Its when you take advantage of the situation or the kindness of others to help you when you really don't need it.
2007-12-07 13:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Big J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stop genuinely trying to help yourself out of your situation. That could be the first time you ask for help or the 100th time you ask.....
2007-12-07 13:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by getrd2go 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it goes to far if the asker asks before trying to solve the problem alone.
2007-12-07 13:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋