I really notice it. I'm less keen to meet up with people and try new things and less flexible about all kinds of arrangements, such as holidays, accommodation, etc. I am also loads more sensitive about getting enough sleep and eating certain things. Boring boring! What has happened? I know it's probably a universal thing. Should you try to fight against it?
2007-12-07 05:08:03 · 28 answers · asked by fuzzymoose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
32 and thinking the same but I'm happy. I am finally a lot more comfortable with who I am, and I don't have any needs to do things typical of the 20s like clubbing, I'm done with that stage of my life and I don't want to go back. Now I'm a lot happier with a pizza at home and a movie, and I don't really have to be meeting people and socializing, even less, exposing myself to situations where I know I will be more comfortable at home. Like last Thanks Giving, I just wanted to stay home than being putting a smile on my face for being in a house I didn't know the majority and just be hanging there, in my place I did everything I wanted, cooking something I like and did things I wanted plus I got to relax which is what I really wanted.
You can fight against it, or enjoy your new preference of doing things, I would say enjoy what you have discovered on yourself, or being a more independent person and someone that doesn't have to be out there looking for friends and the need of companionship. You are a mature person, and now is when you are ready for a relationship and statistically you are more likely to suceed, this is if you are single, if you are in a relationship congratulations as well, you are a confident person and you are happy with your partner.
2007-12-07 05:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me when we were in our 20s everyone knew everyone and groups of people would just decide to go do something together like ride out to the beach or go hear a band- but as we got into our 30s we were way more selective and only into a few close friends, our careers and families etc. The funny thing is now that we're in our fifties we are seeing a lot of the old people again and its we saw the all the time even though we hardly saw them in 20 years. I'm talking about people who were young with us and still live in the same neighborhood. I'm not sure you can fight against it.
2007-12-07 05:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by hfrankmann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a universal thing. Not only you, but all the people reaching middle age are surrounded by modern noisiness, uncertainty, manufactured food, etc. are apt to boring . Such tendency is from the modern society's structure. In some countries people become Buddhism monk as they think life is vacuum, they rather give up their desires. Anyway, you ask the WHY. The Why is the modern society's structure plus your age. If you are only dull, you will not feel like you do now. For me also, I sleep to escape the reality. OK, I say these only from my view. I not discuss so deeply.
2007-12-07 05:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by freshman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, I'm 21 (22 on the 10th/Dec.) and I have been like that since I turned 20. I had to grow up really fast. I live with my fiance of 4 years, work a full time job, go to bed by 10:00/10:30 pretty much every work night, and I'm up by 8:00am. I don't spend pretty much ANY time with friends and when I do its just for holidays and a short period of time. The last time I went out to a bar was St. Patty's Day and only have drank at home a couple times with friends. Not a "typical" 21 yr olds life. lol. Some days it bothers me, but then I realize the choices I have made in life have sent me in this direction. I wouldn't really fight it. Just try to make time for friends so they don't feel pushed away or they don't in general leave. Maybe once or twice a month have them over for a movie night, or go to dinner, or have a few drinks at a bar and discuss whats going on in life.
I wish you good luck and welcome to 'adult hood'...its not as fun as we thought it would be huh? :oP
~S
2007-12-07 05:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I have been dealing with this too. I use to be able to make and keep friends and wanna meet up and do fun things and I feel to anxious about leaving the house and as a result I stay home and feel sorta depressed. You're not alone, I just don't know what to do about it. I thought it had to do with age but then it seems people so much older than us are still able to make friends and go places and have fun. Maybe if you experienced a lot of hardships early in life and all it may of burned you out and made you feel less excited about life. I don't know.
2007-12-07 05:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 and I am the same way. The older you get the more you are stuck in your ways. I also need my 8 hours of sleep and I need to eat my meals at a certain time and ear certain foods or I don't feel so well. Why fight against it? Do what feels best for you.
2007-12-07 05:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the needs of people change as they age. you wanted different things when you were 5 than when you were 20. i think if doing those things still interested you, you would do them. your interests are changing. of course it's normal. you don't see 50-yr olds doing the same things as 17-yr-olds. why would you be an exception? what you need to do is find and develop your new interests....who are you now and what do you want to do. maybe you have some new interests and would rather spend time knitting or cooking than going to a party. it's ok, accept yourself. find out what you do like. the sleep and food thing is normal, too. You get maybe better at taking care of yourself and know yourself better as you get older. your body changes. I'm 47.
2007-12-07 05:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah hell i am 18 and i am starting to get this way. all depends on the person I'm sure. :) i think you should fight against it if you are unhappy but if you are just fine and happy with the way things are going i wouldn't push it. But about the holidays definitely be more accommodating. Family is always there whether you like it or not.
2007-12-07 05:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by SayAnything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your needs/tastes are changing as you age-but you aren't old yet.your priorities and preferences have just changed a little.now you are more focused on yourself,not everyone else.don't fight it ,or you will become an overgrown kid.try to meet people with the same interests and in your age group-you are not a teenager now!!you will be fine-you aren't boring except maybe to yourself! be proud of your age! I'm 41,myself! best years yet! I go out more and get laid more now than ever!(lol)
2007-12-07 05:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I'm in my 50s and I still like to go out and have a good time every now and then. Sure I've slowed down a lot since my party days in college, but my hormones are still active enough where I'm still attracted to women. Don't cast yourself as party retired just yet.
Go out and have some fun or you will get old before your time. I refuse to act my age and grow up.
2007-12-07 05:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by David T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋