Boyfriend and friends going to Vegas?

Question

My boyfriend was supposed to be going to Vegas with his family. Now, all of a sudden, he tells me if he goes it will be with his friends. I would have no problem if he went anywhere else, literally. I mean, Rome, Canada, California, etc. would be fine. It's just the fact that it's Vegas and I've known people who have gone there and crazy things have happened. I trust him but I also know how groups of guys are when they're together in a place like that. He knows how upset I am about it and whenever I bring it up, he gets mad at me and tells me he's going either way. Should I be upset?

Answer 1

You have every right to be upset. You can't help feeling worried about it -you can't change that. The fact that he refuses to compromise with you is not good. I dont suggest telling him he CANT go but it would be nice if he worked with you.

What he doesn't understand is that by is obstinate attitude he is making it worse and most off showing an attitude of "I dont care".....which isn't the attitude you want him taking to Vegas.
Do NOT let him belittle your feelings with "Your over reacting" or "You keep me on a short leash" lines....its OK to feel the way you do and dont lower you standards for him.

I dont think there is a clear answer here but if he is not willing to calmly talk about it with you and hear your feelings I say loose him! Best of Luck! :)

Answer 2

in a relationship, the most important thing is trust. if you doubt his affections or ''loyalty" to you, you always will regardless of whether he is in Vegas or simply out at a bar with friends. learn to trust him until he betrays it. being upset about what might happen would only piss him off. like he said, either way he is going... so wouldn't you rather be the supportive girlfriend and all be happy then constantly be mad and suspicious of his actions? if he had cheated before, then you shouldn't be together now! if he has not... trust and believe in him. Many men would reciprocate that trust.

Answer 3

I guess you have a reason to be upset because of the simple fact that he lied to you about who he was going with. That gives you grounds to be upset. However, your reaction alone is the reason why he probably lied about it in the first place. He will go either way, being upset and freaking out about it will only hurt YOU. Try to relax about it...if something happens, deal with it when it happens. But really, if your boyfriend has never given you a reason to not trust him, then don't fret over the location he chose to visit.

Answer 4

I think that in relationships each person should be allowed to have his or her own life, and group of friends they like to go and do things with. While you being his girlfriend you are a major part of his life .. you arent his entire life.

A good relationship is built on trust. If you trust your boyfriend you would know that he isnt going to do anything behind your back. It wouldnt be fair to tell him he cannot do something because you do not want him to because ultimately he could be missing out on something.

He should acknowledge that you are upset and talk to you about it, reassure you that everything will be fine. Maybe you two could even plan a certain time of day where he can take a few minutes to call you and check in if it makes you feel better.

I know how you feel, sometimes I dont like my bf going out with his friends but .. its good for him ..

Answer 5

I went thorugh the same situation we actually both went to vegas without each other. It sucks that you have to sit home while he is away but if you trust him you will get through it. I think that if you have a great realtionship it is fine to go away without ur girlfriend or boyfriend. I mean these vacations shouldn't happen too often, but once in awhile it is good to get away.

Answer 6

Yes you should be upset. When you are in a committed relationship the last thing you should be doing is going to vegas with your buddies. If you were going with, that would be a different story.

The fact that he lied is an indicator of his real intentions.

Answer 7

So, your saying you trust your boyfriend, but not his friends? I've been to Vegas with my friends and also with my girlfriend. The only difference was I paid for two on one trip!!
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!! lol

Answer 8

Absolutely not! If you truly trust him and he's a stand up guy then what's to worry about. Your jealousy is going to ruin your relationship faster then Vegas.

Gosh, looking that these other answers it's no wonder the divorce rate is constantly going up. Relationships are built on trust. Confront him on the family trip verses the friends trip. I'm glad my wife didn't try to hold me back when we were dating. Some of you are pathetic.

Answer 9

The bottom line is you don't trust him. If he says he is going either way it doesn't sound like he has much respect for you or your opinion. It might be time to move on.

Answer 10

oh my gosh i would be so upset. It seems like he lied to you about the going with his family and now all of a sudden its with his friends? sounds kind of fishy to me. But if he is not the kind of guy that would hurt you like that (things happening in Vegas with his friends) than i wouldn't worry. But...you are voicing this worrying about what he could do, that seems like you think he would potentially do something. Talk to him. And seriously dint just bring it up in passing and if he gets mad about it well then that seems to me like hes hiding something...i would get to the bottom of it. Best of Luck :)