what do you think I should do I look like I'm 30 but I'm 53
2007-12-07 04:58:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Let's be realistic. If your husband met you when you were originally thinner and you gained (a whopping) 62 pounds, then you just weren't the person he married. He was there after 30 pounds, 40 pounds, 50 pounds, and then at 60 pounds, he reached his limit.
Now you're back to what he thought he signed up for. At 53, you have to ask yourself how good are your prospects? He may be the best you can do, but since he's chasing you, then make him work for it.
2007-12-07 05:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Zentraed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer. If he loved you at all in the first place, he would still be with you. Love is unconditional. If he wants you back now that you have lost all that weight, then he really didn't love you in the first place.
There is someone out there who will love you like you were meant to be loved. Don't settle for just anything or anyone. Take it slow and date others and see where it leads, You may find "MR RIGHT". What do you have to lose?
Congratulations on the weight loss.
2007-12-07 05:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has changed, do not go back to him. While you may still love him, he did leave you when you "changed" and now that you have returned back to where you had been he now wants you again. This means that he is shallow and probably hasn't changed.
If you do take him back, and you have to be the one to accept him back and not the other way around, make sure you have conditions set for him. If he is serious he will make the attempts to comply. If not, he will do what he wants.
Congrats on the weightloss.
2007-12-07 07:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Matt F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be kidding. The jerk wants you back because NOW you look good? There is no question here, you don't need him, tell him to get lost and stay lost, you can do much better than someone who only wants you back when you look how HE thinks you should look.
2007-12-07 05:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but he sounds shallow and stupid. Deep down, this is really disrespectful towards you, since he is obvious telling you in other words he could care less about YOU and just about your body. Tell him to get lost, go out, and find some other nice men who will appreciate you.
2007-12-07 05:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that can make that decision. If you love him then go in for counseling and see if it will work. If you don't love him then tell him that you are not interested.By the way if you go back with him and gain weight--will he leave you again?
2007-12-07 05:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by jackie_jabar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know that at age 53 you prob think you have no chance of finding another guy, but you can. it is seriously possible. you'd be surprised. DONT TAKE HIM BACK!!!!! and plz gain some weight...
2007-12-07 05:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick him in the mud, beuity is on the inside not on the outside, if he just loves you now, just for the way you look, that isn't real love.
2007-12-07 05:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by Linds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find a nice 30 year old
2007-12-07 05:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Chris E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him back. he should have supported you and not leave you just because he didn't think you were attractive enough for him
2007-12-07 05:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Miguel A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋