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Question

alsalamo alikom
i am 19 ,and i wear the hijab (Isdal) but
i am thinking of wearing the nickap
http://www.middleeasttransparent.com/IMG/cache-330x224/arton637-330x224.jpg
but my parents will refuse it not because they do not like it but because i am still in college and the security there treat girls who wear it in a bad manner
i am also scared that it will be difficult for me because i travel alot and i would like to have a job some day
and i do not want to wear it then take it of
so ,what do you think i should do specially about my parents?
THANKS

for people who speak Arabic
http://www.islamway.com/?iw_s=Lesson&iw_a=view&lesson_id=6771

Muslims where are you?
i need some answers

Answer 1

Praise be to Allaah.

I think this is what you need, sister:
http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=104165&ln=ara

BTW, I'm having the same problem like you about a year ago but ofcourse not about wearing the Niqab, it's letting my breads (lehya) grows and not to wear any clothes below my ankles ... This is it ... It's a test from Allaah for you, to see whether you can withstand or give up that easy ...

Don't you read in the Holy Qur'aan (interpretation of the meaning):

"Alif. Lam. Mim.
Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, "We believe", and that they will not be tested?" ???
[Al-Ankaboot 29: 1&2]


PLEASE READ Surat Al-Ankaboot especially the first 13 verses, I'm sure you'll find what you need ..

So, sister be STRONG and have a strong faith that Allaah won't let you down as long as you obey him and remember that a strong believe is better to Allaah than a weak believer and both are good ... And in the same time be SMART, try to know how to please your parents, and convince them gently ..

And you have to know since this point, you need to change your way to what's best (i.e to live the true Islamic life) you need to be patient with those who are ignorant, Never say NO to your parent as long as what they order you to do is not against Allaah's orders nor making Him angry ... Sheikh: Abo Is-haq said in one of his lecture if your father told you not to pray in that masjid even if you love praying there, then obey his order and find another masjid to pray in ...

And sister I advise you to listen to this episode:
http://www.islamway.com/?iw_s=Lesson&iw_a=view&lesson_id=64520

And if there's a problem, it's my pleasure to offer help, you can mail me if you want even in Arabic and it's better of course ...

And I ask Allaah to be pleased with you .... Ameen

EDIT: to Kimo;
No brother, the majority of scholars is with obligation of the Niqab (i.e if you do it you are rewarded, and if you don't do it you commit a sin), and the following link may help in explaining my point:

http://www.islamtoday.net/questions/show_question_content.cfm?id=56671

I know SOME scholars like Albani (May Allaah have mercy on him) said that it's Mandoob (if you do it, you are rewarded and if you don't do it you commit no sin), as the Book you pointed to Al-Rad Al-Mofhem, but you have to know also that some of the recent scholars made a reply to that book.

And we should respect BOTH opinions but the majority is with obligation ...

Answer 2

Asslamoalikum,
Allah says in Quran in Surah Al Noor, Ch no 24, V no 31 that if a woman look at a man so she should not look at him again. Allah prohibited for a man to see a woman and for a woman to see a man. It is must but if the government is very strict with the people who wear niqabs so in this case Allah will forgive them if they dont wear niqab.
Hope answer to the question.
Maslamah

Answer 3

Walaikum Assalam sister,

To my knowledge, if you have a thread of life, then you are allowed not to take veil, but then you should taking your scarf nicely and completely, and should not apply any make up n all as that would make you more appealing. and when ever you have a chance of covering, you better cover, otherwise, Allah knows your intentions.

Rest Allah knows the best, and you can. def. take scarf ( i mean u have to) and cover yourself fully. Allah is more imp. than parents but you shall never ignore or misbehave with your parents. Always listen to them but when it comes to Allah and his Teaching, you should be wise enough to take your own decision as you will be held answerable of your actions and intentions.

All the best Sister ~! :)

EDIT :After reading above threads, I would like to make my self clear again : WHEN you have a Life Thread, then you can def. not take veil or Nikaab but you have to cover your head. no matter what. and if you have a thread and you gotta remove your head scarf too, then you better sit back at home. or leave the place. hope you are clear now.

Answer 4

Assalamu Alikum .. you have to obey your parents, niqab is not obligatory for women (according to the majority of scholars). The only case you can disobey your parents is when they command you to disobey Allah.

Also before you take such an important decision, you should study it in depth.

Here is a good book by Shayhk Al Albani (in Arabic) .. refuting the claims that niqab is obligatory for women:
http://www.alalbany.name/books/books/rad_mofham.zip

Answer 5

Classic

Answer 6

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah to you too, even thought I'm Buddhist, I've studied Islam enough to know that your parents have a good point, but you must ultimately decide.

Just this last weekend I discussed the topic of the niqab with a very nice Muslim guy and he feels the niqab here causes women more problems than help. His wife wears only hijab, and loose clothing rather than cultural clothes (i.e. abaaya), but ultimately the decision lays in a woman's choice. Be wise about it and be safe. May you have happiness and its causes no matter what choice you make, and freedom from suffering and its causes.

_()_

Answer 7

just wear it after collage....u need to do anything to graduate and get a good job....as long as u are covering yourself up properly, dont wear the niqab yet....when u go to a job interview, ask ur boss that u would like to wear the niqab while u are working.....i appologize if my answer is not too good....

Answer 8

assalam-o-alaikum!!

dear there is nothing to worry about. explain this matter to your parents that why do u wana wear it right now & than listen to them carefully , they ll explain their points to you. parents r not your enemies , i m sure if they r against it, there must be some sound reason behind it. okkk.just listen to your parents & stay relax. its wajib on you.

Answer 9

w.salam sis,
in this life we have 2make are parents happy, also we have 2make Allah tala happy too... Allah tala dont say "dont wear nickap"... if wearin the nickap make u happy go 4it...we are not in this world 4ever so do wot makes u happy as long its a halal thing... may Allah tala help all of us... ameen...

Answer 10

Why don't you wear whatever you please? Why do you worry about what other people will think? If that's what you believe in, go for what you know.