im after falling for my friend,and i really wana be with her but i dont know if she likes me or not too,its hard to tell!!what do i say,r do i say anything,its playing on my mind!!
2007-12-07 04:20:32 · 38 answers · asked by sharkeater 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just
do
it.
2007-12-07 04:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turning a friendship into love is not always easy. It's best to go out, after asking her out, and see if the momentum swings in a particular direction. Then go with it. If it's positive pick up on the verbal cues and then start to slowly get affectionate. I wouldn't plunge into something physical right away. That's too much of a shock. Unless it's her idea , and you're ready for it.
If the vibes are too weird just be your old selves and joke about it, and say how glad you are that you're friends. That will prevent awkwardness in the future. Hope this works for you and that you have a really great time. Cheers.
2007-12-07 04:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Hues 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell her... if she is your friend it won't change for the worst. Have you hinted? Approach her, carefully. Give her the truth, but don't scare her like... "I watch you from your window everynight before you get into bed" LOL. Just give her the cute, "There is something I want to let you know... I enjoy our friendship, and I would never want to do something that would ruin that, but lately I have been thinking of you as, well, a little more than just a friend..." Remember, environment is everything... so make sure the two of you are in a place that no one will interupt, and make it a cute area. Nothing TOO romantic like an expensive restaurant! No, make it cute like by a creek all warm in your coats and scarf sipping on hot cocoa, etc. Oh, and pray that God gives you the right words, thats most important.
2007-12-07 04:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend before that I liked a lot and I thought he liked me . We were always flirting with each other and everyone thought he liked me too. Then when I finally told him I liked him he said he didn't like me the same way and we were to cool. That changed our friendship forever and it never went back to the way it was until we just stopped being friends altogether.
I think unless you are absolutely positive, like you got a hint from another friend that she said she liked you, that you shouldn't say anything unless you think it is worth the risk of losing her as a friend completely.
2007-12-07 04:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by shonda w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long u guys have been friends. There is that point where u have to stay friends or change. If you pass that point u cant be more than friends, usually. I'd tell her b/c personal experience tells me that it's better to be honest than to hold it in, but expect her to not feel the same. If u don't think you can be just friends with that out in theopen don't tell her though
2007-12-07 04:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by The Duke 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about it in a hypothetical way. (Hey, do you think friends could fall for each other and what would you want your guy friend to do in that situation?) It will be pretty obvious but that gives you an answer and her a way to give you the go-ahead or just-be-friends vibe without it being too awkward.
2007-12-07 06:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Apple Tart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off does it seem that she may like you? Then get her alone and tell her how much you enjoy having her as a friend but you think you may like her a little more then a friend. Also tell her that you don't wanna make things weird between you too either.See what happens. If it's meant to be it will
2007-12-07 04:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by JNE1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask her with confidence. No appalogies. Smile make eye contact, and out right state that you find her really attractive and would like to pursue a relationship that is more than just friends.
If she says no, at least you won't regret not asking for the rest of your life. Take a risk. Its worth it.
2007-12-07 04:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by light_strikes_a_deal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line of any further involvement would be a strong friendship...It takes time to cultivate and learn from...
I like good honest friendships. At any given time you only have 2 good friends that you can count on for things...talk to...borrow things...run around with...
Circles.
2007-12-08 08:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it boy and if your still scared and dont want to then just act very courtious to her (i mean more then usually) and then shell get the idea if girls give men sign about everything then we should be allowed to drop a hint every once in a while as well good look booye. you can also try to call her nice things like cutie, beautiful or can just warmup to her and little by little just show ur feelings towards her. and good luck if she dont like u then just find urself another girl XD
2007-12-07 04:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath first- ok, since she is your friend, she already likes you, so that is a good start, invite her out and then tell her that over the time you know her, you started to like her more and more, and you want to know how she feels about you.
If you know her for a long time, she will feel closed to that too.
But dont push it too much. Good luck.
2007-12-07 04:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by Shoshi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋