Was this phrase in your marriage vows?

Question

Do you promise to love and cherish him, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer,
for better for worse, and forsaking all others, keeping yourself only unto him/her, for so long as you both shall live?

If so, wouldn't this be instructing to let nothing (including a god) come between you?

Just curious.

Answer 1

Sorry, haven't been married yet. I am sure they will be, though if I have a church wedding.

Answer 2

Not at all. Since the vows are made before God, who is supposed to be the head of a marriage, it should be understood that allegiance to (and the relationship with) God comes first.

The 'forsaking all others' means all other people that could insinuate themselves between husband and wife; or that the spouse has priority in your life. A lot of in-law troubles could be avoided if marriage partners remembered this.

God bless you.

Answer 3

Great question. However, whenever it comes to man's laws (or vows) vs. God's, the reference at Acts 5:29 is helpful. Here the early followers of Jesus said, "We must obey God as ruler rather than men." This means that no man-made law or vow can supersede that of God.

A strong marriage has God in it as shown at Ecclesiastes 4:12 where this is illustrated by a threefold cord, "And if somebody could overpower one alone, two together could make a stand against him. And a threefold cord cannot quickly be torn in two."

Answer 4

How could god come between you when you take this holy vow in front of god, for his sakeTHAT IS THE SOCITIES SAKE AS WELL) to make this relationship unbreakable.


Of course if you were living together (IN SIN), and your family and friends protested that, It is not right, then yes you could takeTHAT, as an interference from god, to make you see that if you really love that person, and respect your partner, you will not insulte him by disrespecting the vows of "marriage"that he makes BETWEEN YOU. That is if you love him as well.

Answer 5

Yes, even God cannot come between two people who made a marriage vow. That is the sacredness of the virtue of marriage which is made before God as the Witness.

God bless you!

Answer 6

We did include that phrase in our vows, but since we come from fairly similar religious backgrounds having God come between us was never an issue. It's interesting to think about however in the context of relationships where people come from different backgrounds. Is their promise to each other stronger than the pull of their deities to keep them within their respective flocks.... I don't know. Thanks for posting such a thought provoking question.

Answer 7

We wrote our own vows AND repeated the tradition vows after the minister. We didn't mind, because the ceremony included the minister, of course . . a group effort.

I'm sure the minister wasn't leaving out his god.

Answer 8

Marriage vows:

"I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part."

Don't know where you got that.

Answer 9

Yes, but God was taken out. It is saying to not let other perons interfere. Nothing about God getting between the two of you.

Answer 10

Yes it was.
If you believe in God, then it's common sense that only God can come between you. If you don't believe in God, then it doesn't matter. "Forsaking all others" is in reference to "other people". God is much more than a person.

Answer 11

I made up my own vows because I felt that those vows are out-dated and i wanted something more personal!
But we broke up anyway, lol!