Who pays for and plans the rehearsal dinner when the parents of the groom are divorced?

Answer 1

I think both the parents of the groom, whether they're divorced or not, should chip in with the rehearsal dinner, if they're both in the wedding.

Answer 2

I just got married this past July and one piece of advice is that it is your wedding and hopefully will be your only one. DO WHAT YOU BOTH WANT!! I know it sounds horrible, but I sat both sets of parents down before we started the planning, thanked them both for everything they were doing, and then reminded them that it was OUR wedding not theirs. Believe it or not, we all agreed on most everything! Please have a rehearsal dinner... it's a great time for you and your fiance to talk and thank everyone, because you will have no time at the wedding.

Answer 3

In modern times, planning and paying is done by whoever volunteers to plan and/or pay. The groom should be the one deciding if and how to approach either or both parents here. An alternative is to have a very simple rehearsal with no dinner at all or with something inexpensive like a chinese buffet, a couple pizzas, etc sponsored by either one or both of the groom's parents or by anyone else willing to shoulder the bill, such as yourselves.

It's not like a rehearsal dinner is mandatory. Having a meal is only mandatory if you keep your guests for 4 hours or something. Rehearsals usually last less than 1 hour. You will be just as married without it. As for your attendants, they will probably feel that the meal they missed is more than made up for by the evening they don't have to give up.

Answer 4

The groom's side is still responsible for planning and paying for the rehearsal dinner. however if they are fighting and it is a big headache to deal with his parents, he may want to pay for it himself.

Answer 5

They will have to decide who pays for what. It depends on how good/bad of terms they are on. If they get along well, they can probably split the costs. If they can't stand one another, another arrangement will have to be worked out.

I have a friend who's parents are divorced, so the father is paying for and coordinating the rehearsal dinner and the mother is paying for the honeymoon.

Answer 6

tradionally, the grooms parents do the rehersal dinner, if they are divorced, then maybe you should do the planning and have them split it. Find out what they are both willing to spend. My parents are divorced, they both paid for it, split it in half 50 50

Answer 7

The bride and groom - it's THEIR wedding.

Answer 8

My ex-wife planned the rehearsal dinner. I paid for one half of the expense and was not even invited to the dinner.

Answer 9

They need to both pay. If one couple offers to pay for the whole thing. Get money from the others and add to another area of the wedding.

Answer 10

Traditionally the parents of the groom pay for the rehearsal dinner (as traditionally the parents of the bride pay for the wedding itself.)

However, times are a-changing, and more and more parents are finding themselves in a place where they are not able to financially contribute to the extravagent affairs that weddings have become.

The best course of action would be to have the groom speak with his parents individually, and ask each if they plan to to take part in the hosting of the rehearsal dinner.

If one of them chooses to contribute and one does not, then that individual will have their name on the rehearsal dinner invites as host.

If neither want to host, then the bride and groom will have to assume the responsibility.

If both want to host, unless one is willing to just fund part of it while the other plans it, the most stress-free way to handle it would be for both parents to give the groom their monetary contributions and ideas, but let him do most of the planning and just keep them updated. Otherwise, there could be unnecessary conflicts as the divorced parents try to plan. In this scenario where both parents contribute, both of their names would be listed on the rehearsal dinner invitation as hosts.