We have 3 boys and 1 girl
and we already have names picked out for another child, but we are reluctant because children are so much work.
Should we really have another child or just call the idea crazy and go on with our life??
2007-12-07 03:01:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We have 8. I say go for it, but obviously--I'm biased. I would like to have more, but my husband thinks the time has come to wrap it up. We'll see...
Hope I helped. God bless you.
Reid: The thing that you are missing, is that just because 'everyone' does something doesn't mean a person should base his or her decisions on that. One man's meat...and so forth.
It is not like the lady is unfamiliar with the costs, time, financial investment, and other details of parenting. She knows what she can handle already. It is the inroduction of a 5th child into her family that is in question.
2007-12-07 04:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others in asking those questions can we afford it, that's such a biggie......... as another mother of 4 kids, 3 boys and a girl as well. WE realy knew that we were at our limit with #4. I remember before we had kids and as we were starting to have them people gave us the advice, you'll know when you're family is the right size. We certainly knew. If you still question it, maybe you're not done. I would personally do some deep soul searching before I just jumped. But I realize and I am sure you do too that everyone's situation is different. I might suggest that you go to Yahoo Groups and there is a large family yahoo group that might be a good place for more advice. I am in it, but don't get the opportunity to participate like I would like to. There are families on there that make you and I think we might be infertile, LOL....... Families with 8 and more kids. Might check them out.
Best of luck with you decision. God Bless and Merry Christmas~
:) KH
2007-12-07 03:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by k h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you want a fifth one go for it. I seriously think, the more the merrier. Now I doubt I personally could handle more than four, everyone is very different. Both my husband and I come from families of 8 kids and we both loved it! I am so close to my brothers and sisters and we share a great bond. They are my good friends and I'm glad my parents didn't stop after two or three (now maybe five...totally just kidding!) Good luck and all the best!
2007-12-07 03:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by accent_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it sustainable? I don't understand exactly what you mean by sustainable. Raising 5 children is not the choice for the average family in the developed world, but it is for the Palin family. If you're so concerned about sustainability, go get neutered. Is this something all families should aim for? Only if they can afford it. Can the earth afford, accommodate such personal, selfish, out-of-century actions? It's not whether the earth can afford it, it's whether the parents can afford to raise their children in a healthy atmosphere of love and opportunity. I ask you in return: who gets to decide how many are enough, Mr. Chairman Mao? Should leaders act responsibly in order to be respected? It depends on how you define "responsibly". If her actions aren't responsible to you, then don't respect her. If I think she is responsible and respect her, then you have the right to convince me otherwise. I also have the right to make up my own mind.
2016-05-22 00:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by reva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can ask yourself these questions and honestly answer yes to them, then go for it!
Do we have the money for another child?
Do we have room for another child?
Do we have the energy for another child?
If you can say yes to all of that, then go for it! Why not? I know a few families with 6 and 7 kids right now, and they love it!
I'd love to have a huge family like that, but I doubt we'd ever be able to afford it.
2007-12-07 05:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned the word, reluctant, first and foremost scrap that word, you and your husband have to be 100% certain that this is what you both want, a huge decision by all means but think about it, by no means do i want to put a downer on this, best of luck in whatever your choice is.
2007-12-07 03:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you only "kinda" want another child, I'd say don't do it.
Four kids are alot of work and adding another isn't going to make it less tiring.
Unless you KNOW you want another child and feel you can properly care for it, I wouldn't do it.
Good luck.
2007-12-07 03:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by MARY N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's five college tuitions! Unless you are in the top ten percentile of household income, choose less kids and take care of them better. that's 5 kids to run to DIFFERENT sporting events and after school activities. Plus, you could have twins. Then you are potentially screwed. See the forest through the trees and understand it is much more expensive and difficult to raise a big family today than it was a few decades ago. That's why less people today have big families. Many that do, frankly, shouldn't.
2007-12-07 03:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Haha, just wait for the grandchildren to come along;) Then you can have all the joys of young ones around, and not have to worry about all the responsibilities associated with it.... how old are your other children?
2007-12-07 03:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself... do we have the money, the time, and the means to have another child? I don't know you so it is hard to say. But you should write down the pros and cons and see which one is bigger. Good luck.
2007-12-07 03:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by Krystal G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋