I've been havin a relationship with this girl for quite sometime now and lately all I've felt is racial tension. I'm a white country boy and she's black. I'm not racist but she's startin to make me think I should be. When she brings me up she says 'White boy' and she always says cracker and hints towards martin luther king and malcolm x and all them. She gets mad when I don't like a certain person and claims it to be him beings black. What should I do? Should I just up and be racist to her for sayin prejudice things about me?
2007-12-07 02:20:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should break up with her i am black and i love me some white men but i would never say those things about someone i am in a relatioship with or mot in one with. She sounds like she is not secure with herself dating a white man especially if she brings those words up when shes with her other friends that may be of color. Nobody should be in that type of relationship. cause it sounds like your giving 100% and shes giving 50%. you should talk to her about it ad if she blows it off i would end it.
2007-12-07 02:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by brenpren07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a frank discussion with her. My impression from what you have said is that she, for some reason, feels you have some hidden predjudice in you and she is trying to confirm this.My impression is, that this is also true, just from the fact you would even consider being racist and that you feel racial tension, and that perhaps you have a relationship based more on physical rather than both physical and emotional attraction. I have known many predjudice people whom have used a person of another ethnic background for purely lustful and, no other, desires.Confront your own personal issues BEFORE you have a discussion with her.Visit naturescorner.com, my website.
2007-12-07 10:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Clyde N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because she brings up people who are black that you dont like does not make you a racist.
bring up people you do not like who are white.
a racist white male would never date a black girl in the
.first place. common sense would dictate that.
she should know that herself. in closing she is the one
calling you racist names, so who is the racist? not you.
2007-12-07 10:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the things shesays bother you let her know comunication is everything in a relationship tell heryou dontlike it when she calls you racist names and you dislike when she calls you racist tell her if you were racist you wouldnt be dating her and that she needs to et over the color thing because you have
2007-12-07 10:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by crazylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd be better just finding someone normal, as she clearly has racist issues
2007-12-07 10:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you are feeling. She may not understand how she is hurting you.
2007-12-07 10:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
racism goes in all directions I would address it
2007-12-07 10:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by chillin in the U.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋