Im due in January and am more than ready to have my baby. In movies you always see family members sitting in the waiting room at the hospital... and then the father comes out with the baby and everyone sees him.
I know for a fact that I will not be in the mood to see anyone but my mother if anyone at all after going thru the most difficult task of my life. My mother in law really irritates me and having her around will not go over well for me personally.
When you gave labor did family come visit you afterwards or does the hospital make such visits un-allowed. I might even ask my nurse to tell them I need rest and no one should be admitted into the room.
I don't mind them seeing the baby I just don't like the idea of people crowding around me after I labored for several hours especially my MIL because she is so loud.
Anyways, what really happens after the delivery? Do people really wait for hours until the babies arrived?
2007-12-07 02:18:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I understand what you're going through--my MIL (I have had two) were both incredibly annoying (but nice) women and their faces were the last ones I wanted to see after my kids were born. As far as coming to see you, you need to let the nurses know BEFORE you give birth that you don't want to be disturbed until you've rested. They will oblige. The baby is usually immediately taken to the nursery area, and realtives can view the baby there. If your MIL is nice, she won't try to bother you or make a big fuss, but make sure she gets to hold the baby ASAP. Ask your husband to take care of that. Most people, unless you have a scheduled C-section, aren't going to stay at the hospital while you're in labor. They usually come later, after the baby is all cleaned up. Yo ushould be feeling up to it by then.
CONGRATULATIONS, by the way!
2007-12-07 02:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by JoMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close family members do usually wait. If you do not want anyone coming into your room after delivery, then just make that clear now and also let your doctor and nurses know that you do not want anyone, except your mother and husband and baby in your room for X amount of hours, days after delivery. YOU DO NOT have to let everyone in. Also, I guess depending on the hospital, they usually only allow 2 visitors at a time after delivery and only for a short time. Everyone will be able to see the baby just a short time after birth. They will take the baby to the nursery, usually with the dad, and get him/her washed and all ready for you, and the family and friends that have waited will be able to view him/her at the nursery room window. When you are ready to see everyone, if anyone at all, just let your nurses know that you are ready. If you don't feel like seeing or talking to anyone after delivery, than that is your choice and family and friends should understand, and if they don't, then thats too bad! Your the one going thru the pain not them! Congrats!! and Good Luck!
2007-12-07 02:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by poodiebear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, with my son (1st born), my ENTIRE family was inside the delivery room when I squeezed him out. I was fine with it! They cleaned him up, passed him around, and then everyone milled out so I could nurse him and have quiet time. It was actually quite wonderful because the room I was in was HUGE. When I gave birth to my daughter, my mother, father, husband, brother, his girlfriend, they were all there. The men stayed from the waist up (I just wasn't comfortable with that) and my bro's gf and my mom held my feet while I pushed. Another wonderful experience, but my daughter had to be taken to NICU right away due to complications during the pregnancy. It's toatlly up to you! Whatever you are comfortable with! Tell everyone beforehand that they can stay up until______ and then come in to see the baby, but give them a limited time, like five minutes to hang out. You're going to be tired, grumpy, and in a lot of pain! Get the rest while you can! They will be able to see the baby after you guys get home! Good luck and congrats!
2007-12-07 02:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually in the hospital it will be just you and your partner and then if you have specially requested someone else to come (like your mom or what not) they will wait outside and see the baby afterwards. It is unlikely anybody else will visit you at the hospital unless you ask them to - you are well within your rights to request that people wait until you guys are at home to pay visits, I am sure this is a very usual occurance.
Good luck with the new arrival :)
2007-12-07 02:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe is something you see in movies, it hasn't been that way since the 70's. Who you have in your labor (which is usually also the delivery room now) is up to you. You sound very much like you don't know what is going to happen to you in labor. You need to have your prenatal birthing classes if you haven't already, and you need to have a serious talk with your ob. You sound scared and there isn't any reason for you to be.
Honey, your mother in law is your child's grandparent and its your husbands mother. You better learn how to ignore her or make peace with her or you are in for a lifetime of problems.
2007-12-07 02:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think for you! I even have an extremely overbearing kinfolk and that i'm 37 weeks pregnant. I have been given countless grants for help, yet i understand they might bypass away me greater under pressure than if I had none. So right this is what we are doing: we are going to tell the mummy and dad AFTER she is born. :) I additionally instructed them that my hubby has parental bypass away for some weeks, and that i want to spend that element with him and my daughter, studying what to do and entering right into a habitual, considering the fact that i'm a universal time mom and actually haven't any theory what i'm doing. If all human beings grow to be coming and taking the toddler from me, and changing her diapers, and cleansing the domicile and cooking for me, while hubby went lower back to paintings it would be a great rigidity and it would be like beginning from sq. one. So i want to commence a habitual, MY way, and study the ropes, and discern it out, and hubby would be there to help. it is real, and wager what? They respected it!
2016-10-10 11:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations! It sounds you like you and you MIL have some resentment Issue. If the doctor feels you are up and o.k. for visits he will allow it but you can also request not to have any for a while. You will deal with emotions that have not surfaced. One day you guys might learn to accept each others imperfections in the mean time consider what you say and don't make excuses read Proverbs 15:1.
2007-12-07 02:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
after u go thru labor u would think you are tired, wore out and dont want to be bothered. but truth is your not.. but if you want you can tell the nurse to let others know your to tired for visitors. they can go to nursey to see the baby. i myself was wide awake after both my childrens birth and i didnt want no one seeing my baby unless i was there. and even if you dont get along great with your MIL just try to remember its her grandbaby too and her son that you married. besides maybe u wll have it late at night or early morning. You can have who u want in there the rest can be asked to leave by dr
congrats on your bundle of joy
2007-12-07 02:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i don't know what type of hospital u are going to deliver at but when we delivered we set up a password and if they didn't know it they didn't get in. and besides that they will not be real interested in you they want to see the baby. and we had family that we don't even talk to show up.
2007-12-07 02:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by big-tdl81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geezzeee, the woman is just excited about seeing her grandchild. And if you ask for no visitors in your room, yet your mother is in there, then you're only asking for more animosity.
2007-12-07 02:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋