I ahve never been confident aroudn men when I got out to bars or club, and this Christmas more than ever because I am going out with all my girlfriends who are all tall and very skinny and get all the male attention, whereas I am not eaxctly a size 10 or 6ft tall. But would still like to get to knwo men iwhen I go out but because Im so scared of rejection and men laughing at me I never have bothered!! My friends say I need to be more confident but I dont know how!!
Any help would be gratefully recieved!!
2007-12-07 01:47:04 · 15 answers · asked by Nicola C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi
Your friends are right. Confidence is key. Make eye contact with guys. Dont come across as easy, but dont be a prud either!
Dont be afraid of rejection. Dont think to deep into things. Give as good back as you get.
If your over weight this dont mean guys will find you ugly. Best thing is to make every guy think you are out of their league when you chat. Tell them so and the chase will get them going!
Dress smart. Remember dress code! If legs are out keep top half covered or vice verse! Wear clothes that fit!
Go chat to blokes, at christmas ask them for a dance! If you aint that hot looking or just want to break the ice ask for your yearly dance! lol
Relax be confident and a its your loose attitude to any that dont want to know!!
2007-12-07 01:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by ANDY P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how tall you are, but if you're under 5'6", you may want to wear heels, but practice in them first because balance is tricky and you don't want to appear falling-down drunk. Understate your makeup. As a guy, I appreciate taste more than tartiness. Be prepared to make small talk--she who hesitates is lost. Think up 3 or 4 generic compliments, we like to be flattered. Don't hang in a tight little group, move around. Small talk and ease of approach increase your chances. Some of us won't approach a group because the friends of the one we're interested in make it impossible to single her out. We have a fear of rejection too, and hate to be rejected in front of witnesses. Have fun, but be careful, there are some real nuts out there. Oh, find a dress that emphasizes your good points. You have to catch our eye before we will approach.
2007-12-07 02:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make yourself available to be approached. Get away from the group of women. Guys find it hard to approach a group of women, so make yourself available. Drift off to the side with one other girl and that makes you more approachable.
Look sexy when you go out. Of course for guys who are out, scanning the room/bar they are going to notice your looks, clothes,etc before they get to know you. So not to sound shallow.
Go talk to guys. Like I told you, approach a lone guy at the bar or a guy out with his one friend. You would be suprised that when you approach a guy to talk, the guy more then likely is more afraid of rejection then you are. Guys grow up with weekly rejection from girls most the time.
2007-12-07 01:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by USAGUY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is pat, if you have always been shy around men getting them is really no problem, we are easy to woo around just throw yourself into things, i mean all men like women except GAYS who by the way are recognisable by the way you can have girly conversations wit dem.
Now back to the point, if you want to attract men just be laid back, cool and throw yourself into things, just make sure you don't get hooked with a rapist or pedo.
I assure you that if you also compliment their looks(even if their ugly) it realy helps
ur welcome.
2007-12-07 01:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Factorblue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are looking for guys at a bar all you need to do is wait until they are drunk.
My recommendation is to avoid contracting "bar guys" as they will never lead to anything. Try meeting people in a healthier environment.
2007-12-07 01:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that skirts tend to either look kind of cheap or trashy if they are tight and short, or they are simply just the run of the mill jean skirts that aren't necessarily sexy.
2017-03-02 02:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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She has put forth a great deal of effort to look good for you and her efforts should be acknowledged. Tell her she looks pretty or beautiful; maybe give her a little spin while you appreciate her loveliness. Then stop. After that moment all compliments should be general, like “that’s fascinating”, “cool” and “awesome”. You will make a woman feel more attractive by letting her know that that she is interesting and special than you will by talking about her physical attributes.
2017-02-16 00:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try maxi skirts with the side slits those will look great you! It doesn't matter if you have long legs or not only strut that skirt
2017-01-31 16:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Bruce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act naughty,then when you get the attention pull away
one big secret
men like women for the way they see themselves,so be confident about yourself and never think what teh men are thinking about you
2007-12-07 02:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show cleavage. Men are attracted to this like flies are attracted to dookie. (not that I'm comparing mammories to fecal matter. I would never do that!)
2007-12-07 01:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋